Post # 1
Am I the only one not having a bridal shower? My mom and MOH offered to throw me one, but we’re having a small wedding and most of my family is out of state, so I figured no one would show up and told them not to bother. At first, I was totally ok with this idea since I think showers are mostly an excuse to get more gifts which doesn’t really interest me, but then I got sucked into the blogosphere and am constantly reading about girls being thrown one (or even two) showers. Anyone else out there going shower-less? And bachelorette party-less, for that matter?
Post # 3
Nope. I didn’t have a bridal shower or bachelorette. We had a ‘short’ engagement of 6 months, many of my friends had big life changes this summer, and my family lives halfway across the country. I also did not feel the need for them… Our wedding was a fantastic celebration of the start of our marriage. 🙂
Post # 4
I’m not having one either. I don’t have a mother to begin with and my FMIL isn’t a big party planner.
Post # 5
Doing a bridal shower, bachelorette party — kinda on the fence. I was torn over the style of shower since I always picture these things much more low key then they turn out to be. I’m kinda shy too! haha Bachelorette is being offered but I dont know — I could take or leave it. I know that is very boring if you love bachelorette parties but its true…. for me at least!
You know you don’t have to have 30-40 people to have a good bridal shower…I always liked the idea of 4-5 people in someone’s living room having a good time too. As long as its with people you are close with, numbers dont matter so if you really want to have one and it means maybe 4 or 5 of you — do it in a initimate way and its still works! Just an idea. 🙂
Post # 6
I am not having either! Mostly because I live 3000 miles from our wedding site and our families. I’m not a huge fan of opening gifts in front of people… so I’m not missing the shower, at all. The Bach Party isn’t my thing either… my wedding party consists of my two sisters – one is 14, the other 47. So to do something with the 3 of us, as a girls night out, would be silly. Instead, we’re having a spa afternoon, the day before the wedding, to have a little girl time. I certainly don’t feel like I am missing out on anything by not having either. I’ve definitely felt, the way you’re feeling, about the shower, bach party and a handful of other things (monogrammed napkins!??!) – I think part of it is the pressure from wedding industry nonsense and many brides’ “keeping up with the joneses” attitude.
Post # 7
My bestie didn’t want a shower. She’s getting married in three weeks (yikes!!) So she’s not having one. However, I would be sending out an email to her friends from out of town if they want to get her lingerie or anything and give it to her before the rehearsal dinner. She is a very lowkey sort of bride… and like the pp, not really into monogrammed napkins
Post # 8
When anyone asked us about throwing us a shower, I said firmly that if a shower were held, I would not attend. That tended to discourage the idea.
Post # 9
I am also in your same boat. The wedding is going to be out-of-state and most of my friends aren’t invited so it doesn’t really make sense to me to have the usual parties (no engagment party, no bridal shower, and no bachelorette party). A couple of family members, actually mostly the FMIL, but also some aunts, keeps asking about all this and I keep telling them I don’t want one. I live in fear that someone woud get the idea to throw a surprise one. I had a friend who got thrown a surprise bridal shower and she told me the whole time she just wanted to cry (not in a good way!) I am really hoping this is not a typical thing for people that make it known they are not interested in these things….
Post # 10
@bRooklynRocks: oops. did not mean anything personal. 😉 I think your idea is good. I personally just hate the idea of having a full blown surprise party!!! :O
Post # 11
I won’t be having a bridal shower either. My Mom also offered it, but like you my family is out of state. Also, my good friends from college no longer live in the area so I knew they’d be unable to attend.
Post # 12
I think I will be going shower and bachelorette partyless. I am having a small wedding and my friends live out of the area and are married with babies/kids…I don’t have that many friends to invite. I am also very shy and have never thrown myself my own party….the only birthday parties I have ever had after I was a kid are when my good friends threw me surprise parties when I was 12, 19 and 22. Anyways, I am thinking of maybe combing the two things and having a low key little get together the night before the wedding, when my guests are more likely to be in town, even the wedding party… We could have them bring the bridal shower gifts to the bachelorette party, which would probably be a low key little thing with drinks?
just an idea….but I am really won’t be surprised if I don’t do that….
Post # 13
I am not having one either. My family lives in California and I live in Chicago!!! His family does not care that he is getting married and they are not having one for us. So dont feel bad. I guess we will get gifts at the wedding.