No bridesmaids or groomsmen

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am not planning on having any attendants at all. Not even a MOH or BM. We are also planning a small wedding (50-60) people.  And I think our wedding will be very non-wedding-ish. I asked my sister and best friend this week if they’d be upset and all I’ve gotten on response is it’s my wedding and I can do whatever I want. It will also help keep some costs down, I hope.  


Post # 4
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

There is nothing wrong with having a Small Bridal Party or NONE.

The choice is yours.

My best advice is no matter what you decide… BIG or small is to take the time to figure out what it is YOU WANT from your Bridal Party in regards to their role, responsibilities & expenses

I suggest you start by taking a look at BOTH “traditional” and “modern” Rules of Etiquette, and going from there

Modern Rules you can find in a variety of places…

As for “traditional”, I’ve done several posts here on WBee about them…

The key thing is making sure that everyone is on the same page before you get too far down the road to making plans.

Because where stuff hits the skids (including friendships) is when the Bridal Party see the commitment as being too much work and outlay of cash… against what the Couple is getting out of the agreement

Things are much better when the playing field is a lot more even (especially in regards to time & money)

Hope this helps,


Post # 5
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

There’s nothing wrong with that at all! You’ll have your most special people next to you and that’s what’s important.

Post # 6
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Nothing wrong with that at all! We might not have a bridal party either 🙂

Post # 7
3202 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We don’t have any bridal party, including a BM or MOH! Aside from my grandmother suggesting that our wedding wouldn’t be legal (lol!), no one’s been too fussed about it. Do what you want and rock it! 🙂

Post # 8
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@BlushingBride3814:  Nope! Ill fight my fiance till I’m blue in the face but I absolutely refuse to have either. MOH and Best Man are fine, whatever but I strongly believe a wedding is a ceremony between TWO people.. not twelve people sniffling, coughing and staring at me from 3 ft away while I’m possibly making one of the biggest decisions Ill ever make.


Post # 9
226 posts
Helper bee

not engaged, but don’t want bridesbaids or groomsmen when I do get married! only MOH and Bestman, but I also want an intimate and laid-back wedding 🙂

Post # 10
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I might not have a bridal party either, just an MOH and a BM. I haven’t been to a wedding without a bridal party, but I have definitely heard of them.

Post # 12
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BlushingBride3814:  My FI is having a best man and possibly a groosman – I am having no attendants whatsoever.  I just can’t picture asking my friends to do it, and I want a really simple ceremony without live “props.”  That sounds bad, but I just mean for me, my whole guest list is full of close friends and they all are meaningful and important to me… I don’t need one or two of them standing in the front in a particular dress.

Post # 13
287 posts
Helper bee

@BlushingBride3814:  We won’t be having any bridal party, as we’re planning on having a wedding for only 15 people!

Post # 14
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BlushingBride3814: I had wanted no BMs or GMs but when I found out that my siblings’ feelings were being hurt, I changed my mind. I see nothing wrong with keeping it simple up front. Too many times have I seen hoardes of people standing next to the B&G. To me, it looks ridiculous.

Post # 15
2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We r having no bridal party whatsoever. No flower children or ring bearers, ushers, anything. It was the BEST decision ever. On the other hand, I didn’t get a shower or any parties or any gifts. 

Post # 16
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

i feel for that amount of guests you have more than enough people in your bridal party

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