Post # 1
I think I’m leaning towards not having any bridesmaids. I have a MOH, but there isn’t really any one else I feel particularly close to. I have a group of friend from high school, but I’m only in touch with them on and off. Plus, I feel awkward trying to divvy them up, and I really can’t have all of them (eight).
FI has three GMs and a best man, all family who he’s very close to so I definitely wouldn’t want him to cut out any. I know there are a ton of threads on this already, but I need some reassurance that this will work ok! I feel kinda lonely only having one person on my side, and while in generally I don’t mind an uneven bridal party, I’m a bit worried the mismatch of 1 to 4 will stand out. Also, FI doesn’t really like the idea of his GMs walking alone…
So questions for those of you who have/had (significantly) asymmetrical bridal parties!
-How did you organize your processional/recessional?
-Who stood where during the ceremony? Will it look unbalanced with all the guys, then just me and my MOH?
-Any pictures??? (especially of the above questions!)
Post # 3
You could have all the GM stand with FI instead of walking. I’ve only seen it at one wedding but my friend said it’s common.
Post # 4
I like PPs idea to have them all already up there! Then it doesn’t seem like a long line of men and then your MOH.
We had an asymettrical BP, but not significant – I had 3, he had 4.
Either way, it won’t be a big deal. It’s your wedding. People that judge you for how many or how few people you have in your bridal party are weird.
Post # 6
I know it’s pretty common for the groom and gms to be standing up there already, except we’re having an outdoor wedding so there isn’t really a “side door” they could appear out of. Plus, then it seems like it would be a pretty short processional. Hmm…
Post # 7
I had one bridesmaid and DH had three groomsmen. We decided to just have our siblings stand up, which means one sister and three brothers. We only had my sister walk down. The lopsidedness didn’t bother me because each of the people standing up there had a lot of meaning to us.
Post # 8
I have nearly the same issue. A MoH and 1 bridesmaid. FI has 4 GMs. The GMs will enter from the front side, and then the groom, so all will take their place before the processional. It is quite common for the GM to not walk down the aisle, but remain with the groom.
In your situation, why not have the GM usher the significant family members to their seats (grandparents, etc.) and then take their place, the groom would usher is mother, and then take his place. Your MOH would then march, and then you.
For our recessional, we will go first (obviously), followed by the RB & FG, then the MOH and bestman together, then my one BM and one GM together, and then the two remaining GM together (or single file, which ever they prefer).
Do you have FG or RB? The RB can be a girl, I’ve seen this often, and can help with symmetry if that is important to you. Or have a few FGs, or include a Jr.BM, a female reader, etc. But honestly, I wouldn’t worry about it at all.