Post # 1
I love love the look of candles…but unfortunately for safety reasons, we cannot have candles at our wedding. (My grandfather is on oxygen, which he carries with him at all times.) Although many people have said we can still do candles, we just won’t have them on the tables, but as decor on say the head table or something…we’d rather be safe than sorry.
We didn’t even think of it until recently, but during our ceremony we both had our hearts set on a unity candle. Our minister and my grandfather have both said, that it’s a spark or open flame being within a few feet (of the oxygen tank or hose) that causes a problem. The other solution was to have both candles lit before my grandfather enters the church, before the ceremony starts. But I still don’t know…
Have any of you run into this while planning your wedding? I’ve heard of sand ceremonies, and handfasting, but does anyone have other unity ceremony ideas?
Post # 3
Can you do a different unity ceremony such as a tree planting, sand etc?
I think it is best to just avoid real candles for the safety of you and your guests. For the reception you can also use the battery operated candles, they even have some that flicker.
Post # 4
For your reception, you could always have LED tea lights. They look real to me!
Post # 5
@Treejewel19: we are looking at the sand thing but want to look at other options too. I haven’t personally been to a wedding with a sand ceremony but from photos I’ve seen it looks neato. 🙂
@ohmybears48: I love LED lights too…we have some really awesome pillar style ones at home! I think we’re going to incorporate these into the reception decor…maybe have some pretty pillar ones by the fireplace mantle at the hall.
Post # 6
I think I would check with an oxygen supplier in your community.
Post # 7
@jlc3: It is pretty neat if you want a unity ceremony. We are considering a planting of some sort since I am obsessed with my garden.
My friend had a sand ceremony a few years ago. Here are a couple photos of hers:
Post # 8
@Treejewel19: That looks great! And beautiful!
Post # 9
@jlc3: Unity ceremony –
- Wedding Lasso
- Ring warming
- Sparkling juice or Wine
- Living unity
- Hand impressions
- Love letters
- Bell ring
If you are not doing –
If you need to know what any of these are just ask me. I hope this helps.
Post # 10
We are having a Loving cup – it signifies our first drink as man and wife, and our 2 families coming together as one. It will also be used later (much later lol) as an heirloom that any kids we have can also use if they wish.
Post # 11
I work around oxygen tanks sometimes and an open flame will only go in to blow torch mode if the tube is blowing right on the candle flame. Him just being in the same room is no big deal. Not sure if you are worried about this but it will not blow up! lol
Post # 12
So long as the oxygen is a few feet away, and not blowing directly onto the candle, it should be a-ok.
Post # 13
If your grandfather is seated in the front row and you’re 10+ feet away, lighting a candle is not a safety issue unless he takes the hose out of the tank, cranks it up and aims the O2 at you. O2 dissipates into the air rapidly–unless he is right next to you, it’s not a problem. If you’re that worried, ask the minister and have the candles at the opposite side of the altar to where he will be sitting.
Post # 13
Can’t speak for the safety, but I went to my friend’s wedding this past summer and she had a sand ceremony. Her husband actually suggested it as something that he really wanted and I thought it was beautiful. I could also see it working at a wedding of pretty much any faith too, including secular, which I think is a bonus. Theirs was a VERY Christian wedding.
Post # 14
Sorry bees, it has been a HECTIC week at work, I have hardly been on WB and I forgot to check back to this thread. Thank you all so much for your ideas, photos, and suggestions. Safety is number one and I know it’s better to make sure then anything else. Truthfully, my mom is the one that is crazy anal about not having candles which is fine and understandable, but she thinks something will literally blow up if it’s within a hundred feet of the tank/hose. Which is ridiculous, but I know she is only looking out for her dad. 🙂
@julies1949: I will do that first. That’s the obvious suggestion that I didn’t think about…lol. Thank you!! 😉
@Treejewel19: thank you for posting those photos – that does look just beautiful. I am definitely going to show FI this thread! (he was set on the unity candle but I think this option is a good one too)
@RevMic: thanks for all the suggestions! I have heard of most of them, but what is living unity?
Post # 15
@jlc3: Living unity is where you plant a seed, seedling or tree/bush. You then promise to take care of it as it grows and matures over its life span. Obviously, this works best if you plant something that is transportable. Like a house plant or something that fits in a moveable outdoor planter. Since most couples move five times or more in their lifetime.