No ceremony – no dancing – What do we do at the reception??!??!?!? Which venue??

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Which Venue should i Choose????
    Venue 1: Gorgeous garden, no ceremony, no dancing - What to do? : (1 votes)
    11 %
    Venue 2: OK garden, dancing and lawn games ok : (8 votes)
    89 %
  • Post # 3
    70 posts
    Worker bee

    Dont forget the bouqet and garter toss!

    For venue #2, if you leave before it’s dark it shouldn’t be too bad. 6 pm is usually pre-crime

    Can you hear the highway from the garden?

    Post # 6
    42089 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Just because a venue is available for certain hours (1-6pm)  at a defined price doesn’t mean you necessaily have to use all those hours.

    If people are coming for cocktails and lunch, it would not be unexpected that the event would end by at least 5 pm, so people can leave and have dinner at their own pace and choice of location. An afternoon reception need not extend well into the evening.

    Just because you envision a romantic walk to the beach at sunset doesn’t mean all your guests will join you.

    I would serve dessert right after lunch, then simply allow people to socialize.

    I am of the opinion that you don’t need games etc at a wedding reception. People love to socialize and visit with those they may not have seen for a while.

    I  would choose the venue that you love, have quiet chamber music in the background and have a wonderful time.

    Post # 8
    2282 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Is your group a fan of lawn games like cornhole or ladder golf? My family loves those and they would be perfect in a garden setting. I have never seen the “Shoe Game” done in person, but have seen Bees have it in their wedding recaps and it seems like it is usually a success, if you googled it I’m sure you could figure out how it’s done, but it’s mostly a trivia game. You could extend questions to the guests as well (they could ask you and your husband questions of their own). Personally I hate dancing and all that BUT for a reception I do think music and dancing is nice because it’s more to do, but if you really don’t like venue 2 (and it sounds like you don’t) I would have a 1-4 or 1-5 reception with casual lawn games (so people don’t feel required to join in), socializing and cocktails after lunch. 

    Post # 10
    418 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Gwendolyn88:  Maybe play some fun games? Like that one where you each get each other’s shoe and someone asks questions about you two as a couple and you hold up whoever’s shoe is most accurate.

    Post # 11
    26 posts

    Instead of a guestbook, we are doing a confession booth.  Our guests will be asked to be recorded on a video camera 1) congratulating us and saying how excited they are to be there 2) giving us a piece of advice for marriage success and 3) where they think we will be in 5 years.  That can take some time to get everyone in there.  We are going to build a PVC cube/room and hang fabric for walls.

    Post # 12
    26 posts

    You could also do a photo scavenger hunt.  Scope out the area beforehand so that you know what silly props people will be able to find within walking distance.  Give them 8-10 items to check off their list like 1) get a pic with a stranger 2) get a pic wearing funny hats 3) get a pic of the most beautiful thing you see, etc.  You will be the judge and have door prizes for the best photo for each item.  They can team up by themselves, maybe 2-4 people per group.

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