No chairs for garden ceremony?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is it acceptable to have a garden ceremony without chairs?
    No, it is completely unacceptable : (20 votes)
    50 %
    No, it's not ideal, but it's not really a major issue either : (9 votes)
    23 %
    Yes, it's okay as long as it doesn't go on for too long : (11 votes)
    28 %
    Yes, it's totally fine : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    For such a small wedding… everyone young and healthy… as long as you start ON TIME and keep it less than 30 minutes, no biggie. It would ease the burden on your guests if you had a lemonade dispenser or something else so they could have a refreshing drink while they waited. But no one ever died from standing up for a little while. As well, if your FH says that it’s normal where he lives, perhaps it is, and will be more or less expected for many guests. 

    I’d also warn guests about it ahead of time and suggest they wear comfortable shoes. But I wouldnt find it more than a momentary annoyance if I were a guest. 

    Post # 4
    3009 posts
    Sugar bee

    @lyra:  standing for 30 min straight could be kind of uncomfortable. Especially if you have elderly guests or anyone with medical issues like a back problem. If everyone is young healthy & spry it should be ok. 

    Post # 5
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I wouldl have a few chairs for select people (maybe grandparents or anyone else you might think might need something). We’re having a wedding of 80-90 and there’s only like 40-50 chairs in teh small garden. The venue said they used to put out more, but they were far away from the altar so people ended up getting closer and standing just to hear things! We plan on having a short ceremony but I’m not sure how we’re going to make sure those seats go to those that really need them. 

    Post # 6
    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m young and otherwise healthy, but I have a bad foot. If I had to stand for thirty minutes at your ceremony (especially in any kind of heels), I would not be able to enjoy your reception because I would be in enough pain that I would have to sit for the rest of the event. If you are having a small ceremony, make sure you know that every single one of your guests will be able to handle it. Just because a person is young does not mean that they don’t have an invisible ailment that you don’t know about. I probably would not go, if I was expected to stand for that long.

    Post # 7
    3217 posts
    Sugar bee

    Keep in mind that a 30 minute ceremony actually leaves guests standing in heels for 45 + minutes, as people don’t arrive exactly at the start time, nor are they seated as soon as you kiss the bride. So more then likely you are asking for an hour of standing on grass, in heels.

    Basic hosting responsibilites include having appropriate seating. Not everyone who looks young or spry is. And people don’t always reveal their medical issues.

    Post # 8
    3047 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @lyra: I’m Swedish and I’m getting married in Sweden the day after you!

    In general, your FI is right – no chairs will work fine. Everyone is young and should have no problem what so ever to stand through the ceremony. In my experience, Swedes are much more “self propelled” than the average person in North America – so standing up for 30 minutes should be ok. What you could do, in case you’re short on chairs, is to ask people to bring their own folding chair. That way they can be unfolded if needed, otherwise they won’t take any extra space.

    Hope you have a lovely wedding – I guess it’s up in the north based on the light factor? We’re getting married in Norrbotten. 🙂


    Post # 9
    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had guests stand for our 10 minute garden ceremony. The guests arrived about 20 minutes earlier and had cocktails and snacks, then the ceremony happened, then we had about 45 more minutes of cocktails and appetizers. Benches were available for those who wanted to sit, so the only time they had to stand was for the 10 minute ceremony as the ceremony spot was not easily viewed from the benches.

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