Post # 1
so our RSVP date was 3 days ago & I have only just heard from one of our guests. No children we invited, our invitations said ‘adult reception to follow’. Our guest have just sent us a text message to say they would like to bring their son along! None of our other friends even questioned it, the majority are actually excited to have some ‘time out’. So my question is… How do I respond to this?
Post # 3
@meeegz2587: you have to be completely honest but firm and let them know that your wedding can not accommodate children!
Post # 4
“Sorry, we’re having an ‘adults only’ affair. I hope you are still able to join us, but please let me know ASAP.”
Post # 5
@meeegz2587: Coming from someone who is straight forward, I would respond with, “I’m sorry, but it is an adults-only wedding.” If / when they ask why, I would say that you and your fiancé don’t feel that the environment will be right for children and so have decided to invite adults only.
Edit: Heh, yeah. Exactly what the others said. Sometimes I take too long when typing and my answers become repeats!
Post # 6
Thanks ladies, I guess it just put me off a bit! Her and her husband got married a little over a year ago and only I was invited to their wedding not my fiancé. I didn’t say a thing to them, I just went by myself and then she asks if they can bring their son… I was like ‘really??’ In my head!! I see on Facebook all the time that their son is with his grandparents so why is our wedding any different?
Post # 7
How old is their son? and it can definitely be different in the evening/night. I would give the same responses as the others…but if it’s a baby (eg. nursing infant) I can understand them asking. Maybe their baby sitter fell through and they’re just checking
Post # 8
He’s one, we have friends that have nursing children (4&5 month olds) we would understand completely if they felt the need to bring their children & we told them so; but they are looking forward to an afternoon out. That’s right our ceremony is at 11am with our reception following so it will be over by 6pm
Post # 9
@meeegz2587: I would say, ” sorry we aren’t able to accomodate any Children, I hope you will still be able to join us I really would love to have you there but if you can’t make it I completely understand”
– That way she knows your serious and knows her options are come without kids or don’t come.
Post # 10
This is perfect. We did an adults only wedding and it worked. Nobody even asked, but then, ours was a very small, one notch from elopement affair.
I really like Mrs.stormylove’s response– it’s firm, but polite at the same time.