Post # 1
I am on a very tight budget, so I’m planning to have no children at my reception. I feel like I should invite my flower girls and ringbearers (my only 2 nieces and nephews) to the reception as well, but I’m afraid that those who cannot bring children will get upset. I am okay to have them there? I understand that some of my family will be upset, I’m not expecting to make everyone happy, but I just don’t want to cross a line. I was planning to write Adults Only on the response cards… and it feels a little wrong to have 4 children there after I write that. I’ve read a few blogs, and it sounds like I should address the invitations with only those invited, but apparently some people brought children anyways… ???
Post # 3
I am also in the same position as you, due to a small budget wedding i cannot afford to have friends children at my big day, The only children that will attend the day are those that are in the bridal party.
I have explained this to all my friends with children, one was a little put out, but the others were relieved that they would be able to enjoy the day relax and have a few drinks.
I have thought about including a polite message on my invites just to remind people that children cannot attend.
Post # 4
Since they are part of the wedding, I think that should be understood as OK. Like you said, you won’t make everyone happy-there are parents who think their children should be able to go everywhere they do, and others who are greatful for the fun adult only evening.
Post # 5
Maybe write something along the lines of “Two seats have been reserved in the names of ________ & ________”
I am only having 2 flower girls at a kids free event too. Although I am not writing “adult only”, I am inviting only SPECIFIC people.
Hopefullt people can read and honor the invite
Post # 6
@O.My.Heart: I was thinking “adult only” might be rude, so maybe I will just write the “two seats have been reserved” thing… that seems nicer.
@mrsjenk2b: Glad to hear that some of your friends are happy about it! Gives me some hope!
Post # 7
I’ve gotten lucky. All the cnildren in the family are children of cousins, except for three, and those are the three we want at the wedding. Two are my fiance’s counsins (his uncle is quite a bit younger than his siblings), and one is my (one and only) nephew. So we’re only inviting aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews/nieces, but no second cousins, etc. No one can complain about the kids who will be there, because they’re all more closely related than the others.
That’s my hope, anyway…
Post # 8
As long as you have a clear cut in which kids are invited or not (and you do – wedding party only) you aren’t doing anything wrong. People might still get offended but it seems like there is always something for people to complain about.
Post # 9
we’re doing this too. 2 necies and 2 nephews, that is it.
On the website rsvp, there is a max of 2 so, hopefully that gets the point across. We also wrote very small on the invite in parens no children please, and addressed the invite only to the parents (and a few teenagers we’re allowing, we added their names on the invite as well).
Post # 10
I did the same thing. Adult only with the exception of my 1 flower girl. I think because they are in the bridal party people will understand.
Post # 11
@kellsweddingbells: People probably won’t mind if they’re your nice and nephew, especially since they’re in the weding party. Anybody who would kick up a fuss is being unreasonable.