(Closed) No Children–have been very clear with wishes

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think your Fiance should deal with this since it is his step-sister.  Is there a way he could casually bring it up?  Like saying, “by the way have you found a babysitter? we know someone who might be able to do it …”  Or just check in with them and say “sorry step-son can’t come, so I guess it will just be the two of you then?”

Post # 4
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think your fiance should call her and be direct.  “Hi step-sis, I need to clarify numbers for the wedding so we can give them to the caterer/venue/whatever.”  And then if she says she’s bringing the kids, he’ll need to be prepared to tell her that he’s very sorry but it is an adult reception.  I’d also be ready with the number of a reputable baby sitter in the area that could watch the kids.

We’re having a similar dilemma and I’ve found that direct is the way to go — people often don’t get subtlety.  Good luck! 

Post # 5
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree, your Fiance should talk to his sister and clarify the response. If they are vague or start talking about bringing their children and not finding a babysitter, then he should say that he’s sorry they won’t be able to make it but he understands and looks forward to sharing pictures with them at the next family function.

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