(Closed) no children invited dilema…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

as they are your sisters and if you like them, i would let them come – but only because they are your sisters. anyone else i would agree and say adult only

 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it’s okay to make an exception for immediate family, if you want them there and if it seems like it’s important to your dad.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

At first I didn’t want ANY of my 11 nieces and nephews to come to either the ceremony or reception and couldn’t imagine having them. Then time went by, I calmed down and realized this isn’t just ‘my day’ it’s about my guests too and their parents would be so hurt that it wasn’t worth it.

If I were you, I’d express your concerns to your father, but leave it up to him. Tell him it is your preference to have no kids and not make an exception, but at the same time you want to make the ‘right’ decision, so if he feels really strongly he can overrule you. That way, you take the pressure off yourself.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Anyone who can’t handle that there is an exception for your sisters is kind of a jerk, if you ask me. If you were making an exception so your BM’s kids could go, that would be annoying, relatively immediate flesh and blood is fine.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

We had a “no kids over 12 months” rule for ours too, but did end up making a semi-exception for DH’s cousin’s children, who were 13 and 18 months. They came for dinner and then their dad took them back to their hotel room (which was about 100 metres away), got them into bed, and came back for the rest of the party. No one asked about it (we obviously had other people there whose children were being babysat elsewhere) but if they did I was prepared to say that we’d made an exception because a) they’re family and b) they weren’t staying all night. I don’t think anyone would blame you for including your sisters, they will have a good time bc they can hang out together, and your dad will certainly appreciate it 🙂 Sometimes these things aren’t worth fighting!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Marie Gabrielle

I think your sisters should have the option to come – your neighbor’s doctor’s kids? Not necessary.  I’d be shocked if your guests don’t understand an exception for your sisters!

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