Post # 1
So my fiance and I decided that we did not want to ahve kids at our reception. We decided to let children come to the ceremony if they wish but we wanted to keep the reception adult only.We have have “adult only reception” listed on both our invitations and wedding website. My dad just called me today and asked if his children (my half sisters) could come to the reception. I told him that i know they are my sisters but if i allowed them to come, I would get shit from other people who are wanting to bring their children. My sisters are 9 and 11 and are from another marriage as they are my half sisters. Do you think I should let them come to the reception because they are my sisters or do you think it is wrong for me to say it is OK for them to come but not for anyone else to bring children? If I do allow them to come, this would be the ONLY expection, no other children. I also feel obligated because my dad is pitching in some money for the wedding…Please help!
Post # 3
as they are your sisters and if you like them, i would let them come – but only because they are your sisters. anyone else i would agree and say adult only
Post # 4
I think it’s okay to make an exception for immediate family, if you want them there and if it seems like it’s important to your dad.
Post # 5
At first I didn’t want ANY of my 11 nieces and nephews to come to either the ceremony or reception and couldn’t imagine having them. Then time went by, I calmed down and realized this isn’t just ‘my day’ it’s about my guests too and their parents would be so hurt that it wasn’t worth it.
If I were you, I’d express your concerns to your father, but leave it up to him. Tell him it is your preference to have no kids and not make an exception, but at the same time you want to make the ‘right’ decision, so if he feels really strongly he can overrule you. That way, you take the pressure off yourself.
Post # 6
Anyone who can’t handle that there is an exception for your sisters is kind of a jerk, if you ask me. If you were making an exception so your BM’s kids could go, that would be annoying, relatively immediate flesh and blood is fine.
Post # 7
We had a “no kids over 12 months” rule for ours too, but did end up making a semi-exception for DH’s cousin’s children, who were 13 and 18 months. They came for dinner and then their dad took them back to their hotel room (which was about 100 metres away), got them into bed, and came back for the rest of the party. No one asked about it (we obviously had other people there whose children were being babysat elsewhere) but if they did I was prepared to say that we’d made an exception because a) they’re family and b) they weren’t staying all night. I don’t think anyone would blame you for including your sisters, they will have a good time bc they can hang out together, and your dad will certainly appreciate it 🙂 Sometimes these things aren’t worth fighting!
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Marie Gabrielle
I think your sisters should have the option to come – your neighbor’s doctor’s kids? Not necessary. I’d be shocked if your guests don’t understand an exception for your sisters!
Post # 9
thanks guys for making me feel better about it! i just emailed my dad and let him know they are welcome to come and i want them there