- 3 years ago
Dear Bees, I’m so happy I found this forum. I’m so in need of talking to women who are going through the same things as I am…organizing my own wedding, it’s a last-minute, budget, laid-back wedding, we just want everybody to have a good time and to share our love with our family.
We’re not religious people so when we first got in touch with different churches who sounded very bigoted and very accusatory, we said “nope” to the church.
Now I’m finishing up the details for the party and the civil ceremony, but I am wondering – are we missing something? Marriage is about officializing a link you have with your hubby, it’s a grand declaration of love and fidelity and I am afraid that the civil ceremony and the party just don’t cut it.
What do you think? Should we write our own vows and recite them in front of our party? (We have a nice setting in a vintage hotel with a dance floor).
The one certain idea I had was, our first dance was going to be a waltz, and the song is already picked. It’s a culturally significant, very well-known song over here, almost like the national hymn of our region. The lyrics are also very relevant, they talk about love, and spending our lives together, so would it be nice if we just wrote something like an introduction to the song and then sang it? I know we could pull it off.
The song goes something like (it’s in French originally):
“The moments we took/To say I love you to one another/Are the only moments left/At the end of days.
The wishes we make/(Are like) flowers we plant/We each grow them in ourselves/In the gardens of passing time “
Anyways, you see that it’s really alegoric and unique, and these verses are less well known because, much like “Joy to the world” and other songs, everybody only sings the beginning and nobody knows the rest.
I just figured it would be lovely to say our vows in music… Ohhh, I’m just so confused!! Please, if you have some input..