No close friends for party?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Please don’t feel bad about this – you can just have uneven sides, no one will think about it! Better to have less people that mean something to you, than trying to squeeze in additional ones just for the sake of a number. If I were you I would just stick with the two girls you’ve already asked, then you can have your little girl as your flower girl.

For reference, we had two brides maids and one best man and I’ve never looked back a second on our choices.

Oh, and you can add friends your entire life – age doesn’t matter! A fairly easy way to meet new people is to engage in a new hobby, then everyone share the same interest and you can work on it from there.

Post # 3
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Just have uneven sides, I have 3 and my FI has 2 – we just asked who we wanted. 

Post # 4
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Do you fiance’s groomsmen have any wifes/girlfriends that you get on with well? If so, could ask one of them to be a bridesmaid? Or just keep the sides uneven, I don’t supose anyone would even notice.

And it’s not embarassing. After leaving college I lost touch with all my friends due to us all going off into different diretctions. So, like you, the only people I talk to outside of family is OH’s friends.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  Jeo4500.
Post # 5
6963 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Uneven sides is fine IMO. Could you just have one of the groomsmen walk down with your mom, assuming you’ll be walking with your dad?

Post # 6
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Villa Celeste

I agree completely with PP. I don’t think anyone will think a thing of it. Most people don’t tend to notice the little things we freak out about. You seem very stretched thin already (4 jobs? I’m thoroughly impressed) so my advice would be to not let this stress you out even more.

I’m not having a bridal party, and my FI isn’t have groomsmen. But even if we were, I probably wouldn’t have more than 3 women I would really want to ask. So don’t sweat it. 

Post # 7
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Don’t feel bad!  I have 3 on my side and FI has SIX.  Have who is important to you up there.  No one will judge.

Post # 8
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

don’t feel bad it is ok to have uneven sides. and i don’t have many friends either, i say quality over quantitiy.  DH on the other hand has a million friends and collects them where ever he goes.

 i had 3 girls and my brother on my side, DH had 5 friends on his side.  he wanted more, but i told him 5 was plenty.


Post # 9
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Aw! Don’t feel bad! This really doesn’t have to be an issue! My husband and I had uneven bridal parties and it wasn’t a problem at all! And I even had guys and girls on my side without any issue. I thik it’s far better to have uneven sides than to invite someone that you aren’t really close with to be a bridesmaid. Honestly, I think uneven sides are pretty common now, so I don’t think anyone will think twice about it!

Post # 10
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

lonelybridetobee:  Firstly, it doesn’t matter if you have uneven numbers. I am having uneven. FI’s sister had uneven. A few others also had uneven. Have you thought about asking a guy to be a BM? You don’t have to have another female. 🙂 And, BTW, it will not look pathetic!

Post # 11
83 posts
Worker bee

I have 3 “close” friends and my fiance literally has none! My girls will still be my bridesmaids though. They will walk down the aisle and then sit. It will just be me and my fiance at the altar!! You could do that if you really are worried about uneven sides.

Post # 12
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You don’t have to match! If people even notice, the only thing they are going to think is that you just didnt have a third that you wanted to stand up there. They are not goign to sit there thinking omg she has no friends. You should do what you are comfortable with, don’t find a third random person just so your sides are even.

Post # 13
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton

lonelybridetobee:  Aww, don’t feel bad! Uneven numbers are totally fine and no one is going to look at your bridal party and start thinking that you don’t have friends or anything like that. Just do what you’re comfortable with and don’t force yourself to choose a third – that person is going to be in your wedding pictures for years to come!

I was a bridesmaid two years ago and the bride had 4 girls while the groom had 5 guys. We went in height order, so all the other girls were paired with one guy and I was paired with two. We all laughed about it and had a good time (and went I missed a step and almost fell, I luckily had two guys holding me up!) – it was not a big deal at all. Don’t stress!! 


ETA – If you want to make new friends in your area, you could try You find groups based on your interests and then join events those groups have planned. Even if you don’t love the groups, you might find new people who can introduce you to other new people. A lot of the groups I tried were late 20s/early 30s and they were all looking for new friends, so I think that you would fit right in 🙂

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  Mrs. Milk Cow.
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