Post # 1
Just a little background… I’m having a small wedding of about 60 guests, no dancing or alcohol. The Invitation will read “dinner to follow.” The ceremony and dinner are in the same venue. Okay so my question is would it be so bad to not have a cocktail hour? My cerremony will be at 6 and dinner at 7. Most pictures will be done beforehand so that leaves about half hour of time before dinner starts. I am thinking about doing a receiving line right after the ceremony. This should not take long bc we have such a small guest list. The “bar” will be open and serving non alcoholic drinks. Will people need apps? I feel like for such a short time it will go uneaten and be more effort then it is worth (DIY). A friend of mine said there is no way I can not give people a snack bc 6:30 is dinner time for some people. But really you can’t wait half hour?
I actually do have food that would be considered appitizers but it will be served with the dinner buffet or family stye on the tables. I haven’t quite decided yet on that. But because it will be baba ganoush, hummas, must o khair and pita it is not really something you can eat and walk around with at the same time.
Post # 2
why not have alcohol when the bar opens and just have a cash bar so if your guest would like to purchase thier own alcholic beverage they may
Post # 3
You could probably get away without it as long as you are sure that it’ll just be a half hour, by the time everyone gets a drink and gets seated, that half hour will fly by.
However, if there is a chance that dinner may be late, or photos take longer than you might think, put out some party trays.. maybe a cheese display, fruit display and finger sandwiches, all of these can be made or purchased cheaply.
Post # 4
babykoala: I think that if your guests will be left to fend for themselves for a little while, especailly at dinner time, having some platters of cheese and crackers or other ‘grazing stations’ wouldn’t hurt. People will probably be hungry, I’m sure it would be appreciated 🙂
Post # 5
babykoala: Cocktail hours are usually in place if the WP is taking photos in between the ceremony and reception, that way your guests are hosted while you, your new spouse, and your WP are off taking photos. If you’re still going to leave for even just a half hour for photos, I would do something to make your guests feel hosted.
With only 30 minutes, you obviously do not need to go crazy with passed hors d’oeuvres or stations. I think a simple fruit and veggie tray with some dips and maybe a cheese and meat tray with an assortment of crackers would be nice for your guests to snack on until you return. No one will be so filled up on these things that they wouldn’t be hungry for dinner, either!
Post # 6
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Personally I don’t think you should bother. So long as their actual meals are on time, it’s not like people are unaware of what the schedule is like. If they really don’t think they can last a whole 30 minutes without noshing on something, they should know to eat before the ceremony.
Post # 7
babykoala: If there is no cocktail hour, please for the love of god, make sure that dinner will be served to all at 7. Not 7:15, 7:30 or later — at 7.
Otherwise, you may get guests who haven’t eaten since 12/1 pm and 6 hours is about my limit before I gnaw my arm off / get cranky / etc. and wedding wear doesn’t typically have pockets or space in the purse for snacks. Plus the pressure for sharing. However, if I knew there weren’t snacks, I’d be fine to bring my own snacks and my own flask. Just would like to know ahead of time.
I love the idea of light crudites — it would keep me happy for the time between 6:30 -7ish and leave more room for the nips.
Post # 8
As long as it’s REALLY only 1/2 hr, but I’d worry about delays and hungry, cranky people.
Post # 9
I was at a wedding with delayed food this weekend and everyone was hangry and complaining. I think it’s a wise and gracious thing to do to supply some snacks while you take pics. Wedding timelines get delayed all the time- if your ceremony starts late or reception line long or photos long, or dinner delayed… it wont be as big of a deal to your guests if theyre eating- even if it’s just simple cheese and crackers.
Post # 10
we didn’t have an official cocktail hour for our wedding. we had drinks and light appetizers, but that was it.
Post # 11
Thank you for the input. It looks like I will be going with cheese and crackers and maybe some grapes. Would a guest need a plate or would tooth pics work?
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
babykoala: I think you better do small plates. I don’t see any problem with them being “cheap” plastic/paper plates. If you just do toothpicks, people will be standing in front of the table eating.