No cocktail hour a bad thing?

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 2
Member
133 posts
Blushing bee

why not have alcohol when the bar opens and just have a cash bar so if your guest would like to purchase thier own alcholic beverage they may 

Post # 3
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You could probably get away without it as long as you are sure that it’ll just be a half hour, by the time everyone gets a drink and gets seated, that half hour will fly by.

However, if there is a chance that dinner may be late, or photos take longer than you might think, put out some party trays.. maybe a cheese display, fruit display and finger sandwiches, all of these can be made or purchased cheaply.

Post # 4
Hostess
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

babykoala:  I think that if your guests will be left to fend for themselves for a little while, especailly at dinner time, having some platters of cheese and crackers or other ‘grazing stations’ wouldn’t hurt.  People will probably be hungry, I’m sure it would be appreciated 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

babykoala:  Cocktail hours are usually in place if the WP is taking photos in between the ceremony and reception, that way your guests are hosted while you, your new spouse, and your WP are off taking photos. If you’re still going to leave for even just a half hour for photos, I would do something to make your guests feel hosted.

With only 30 minutes, you obviously do not need to go crazy with passed hors d’oeuvres or stations. I think a simple fruit and veggie tray with some dips and maybe a cheese and meat tray with an assortment of crackers would be nice for your guests to snack on until you return. No one will be so filled up on these things that they wouldn’t be hungry for dinner, either!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

Personally I don’t think you should bother. So long as their actual meals are on time, it’s not like people are unaware of what the schedule is like. If they really don’t think they can last a whole 30 minutes without noshing on something, they should know to eat before the ceremony.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

babykoala: If there is no cocktail hour, please for the love of god, make sure that dinner will be served to all at 7. Not 7:15, 7:30 or later — at 7. 

Otherwise, you may get guests who haven’t eaten since 12/1 pm and 6 hours is about my limit before I gnaw my arm off / get cranky / etc. and wedding wear doesn’t typically have pockets or space in the purse for snacks. Plus the pressure for sharing. However, if I knew there weren’t snacks, I’d be fine to bring my own snacks and my own flask. Just would like to know ahead of time. 

I love the idea of light crudites — it would keep me happy for the time between 6:30 -7ish and leave more room for the nips. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

As long as it’s REALLY only 1/2 hr, but I’d worry about delays and hungry, cranky people.

Post # 9
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8018 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I was at a wedding with delayed food this weekend and everyone was hangry and complaining. I think it’s a wise and gracious thing to do to supply some snacks while you take pics. Wedding timelines get delayed all the time- if your ceremony starts late or reception line long or photos long, or dinner delayed… it wont be as big of a deal to your guests if theyre eating- even if it’s just simple cheese and crackers. 

Post # 10
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2912 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we didn’t have an official cocktail hour for our wedding. we had drinks and light appetizers, but that was it.

Post # 12
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2791 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

babykoala:  I think you better do small plates. I don’t see any problem with them being “cheap” plastic/paper plates.  If you just do toothpicks, people will be standing in front of the table eating. 

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