No cocktail hour – so when does one take photos?

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
Hostess
9892 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Have a gap.  I’d never heard of a cocktail hour until I started wedding shows.  All my previously married friends had their ceremony, a 2ish hour gap, and the reception.  If we go ahead with the cocktail hour – which we’re only doing because its all in one spot – we’ll be te first of my friends to have no gap.

Post # 4
Hostess
9892 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

(Or you also an all in one venue girl)

Post # 5
Member
2962 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have never been to a wedding with a cocktail hour either. My wedding was actually the first to have a cocktail hour in my circle. We usually just have a gap. I would suggest taking pics two hours before the ceremony with just you, your BMs and your parents. Then the men get there an hr before ceremony time and takes pics with his parents, GM and by himself. You want him to take pics last because you don’t want guests walking in while YOU are taking pics. Then after the ceremony you can take pics altogether and with just you and your hubby. That may take up to 45 minutes but at least it won’t take 2 hours for guests to wait.

Post # 6
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Interesting, I have never been to a wedding without a cocktail hour. I wonder if it is a regional thing. Even when there was a gap (only 1 or 2 weddings), they still had a cocktail hour at the reception site before the dinner. 

OP, is your venue all in one. If so, it would be weird to have a gap. Why are you against cocktail hour? Just wondering!

Post # 7
Member
1631 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Syzygy88:  Do a first look. Seriously – I haven’t heard a single bee regret it.

Post # 8
Member
2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Everything’s in the same venue for us too, is there a reason you can’t do a cocktail hour?  Otherwise, just do a first look!  We want to actually go to our cocktail hour (more likely a half hour for us), so we’re doing most of the pictures in the first look, and then a few after shots, and then drinks and food.

Post # 9
Member
9529 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow. Must be a regional thing. I’ve never been to a wedding without a cocktail hour. I’ve probably been to around a dozen weddings in the last decade. That being said, it’s not like I’d be offended if there was no cocktail hour. But I have to admit that I hate gaps. I never know what to do. If I go back to the room, I relax and don’t want to go out for the recpetion. But, whatever, not the end of the world. 

How set are you against first look pictures? I think they’re brilliant. You can get all your pictures done before the ceremony so that you can go directly to your dinner and not have to miss any of the reception. From what I have heard from most brides, it’s hard enough to make the rounds and speak with all the guests during the reception – don’t make it harder on yourself by trying to leave to take pictures as well.

 

Post # 10
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2912 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we didn’t have an official cocktail hour at our wedding. we had a gap between our ceremony and reception. we took some pics at the church right after the ceremony and then went to the reception site for more photos.

we spent about an hour and half total taking pics– 30-45 minutes at the church and then maybe another hour at the reception. we got it done pretty quickly.

Post # 12
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1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I feel like you can’t have it both ways. You either have to go straight into dinner and therefore do photos before your ceremony or you have to incorporate a cocktail hour or gap before dinner so that you have time for photos. Decide which is more important to you.

I don’t think taking photos during the reception is feasible. You will be talking to lots of people and you really should be around to talk to your guests not off taking photos. Your photos would end up being very rushed and I feel you would be one of those brides on here with regret about their photos and wanting to set up another shoot.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ve never been to a wedding with a cocktail hour. But that’s an English thing, I guess because we simply don’t have them.

However, most of the weddings I’ve attended have had a gap between wedding and reception and that’s when the after-wedding pictures are taken.

Sometimes people have laid on canapes at the ceremony venue or, at one wedding, champagne and soft drinks with nibbles in the beautiful gardens adjoining the ceremony venue. Other people send their guests straight onto the reception venue where they can get a drink or a cup of tea until the start of the reception although this is not as formal an arrangement as a cocktail hour. Could you do similarly?

Post # 15
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1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

You have three options – 

1) create a cocktail hour

2) have a time gap between ceremony and reception

3) do a first look

Post # 16
Member
2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@continuumphotography:  This.

We did all of our formal photos (families, bridal party, etc) and a first look before the ceremony.  After the reception, DH and I went with the photographer seperately to do pictures in the city.  it worked very well.

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