Post # 1
My fiance and I are thinking about not having dancing at our wedding reception.
We’re tentatively planning on doing the whole wedding in his grandparents’ backyard in the afternoon, and dancing would be difficult to organize. Plus I don’t like to dance. BUT I worry about a couple of things: Will our guests miss the dancing? Will they be bored? Should we plan some other kind of activity?
Also, how does everyone feel about afternoon/brunch receptions? Did you have one? Are you planning one? Have you ever been to one as a guest? What did you do for the rest of the day? The only weddings I’ve ever been to have gone late into the night…
Post # 3
I would have music playing so if people want to dance they can but if not then it doesn’t feel awkward for anybody. Are you guys not having a first dance?
Post # 4
I don’t think that people will notice a lack of dancing at an afternoon/brunch reception. Probably people won’t hang around at the reception for very long after the wedding if there isn’t food or something.
Post # 5
I’ve been to a brunch reception before with only two planned dances (the Hora and Gay Gordon- yes, I’ve been to a Jewish/Scottish Anglican brunch wedding reception). The brunch was awesome.
For the rest of the day a bunch of guests went to a bar for the afternoon…I was in the bridal party and we had some drama, so we needed to come down with some beer and wings. 🙂
The only thing I would keep in mind is that this makes your (Bride and Bridal Party) morning SUPER early…like 5 am early. Also, while the couple did put that brunch would be more of a 11 am kind of thing and for guests to plan their breakfasts accordingly on their invites, they were also late….really late. People were SUPER hungry…no food during the “cocktail hour” while photos were being taken = really hungry guests. People brought in Doritos. There were some complaints. If you make sure there is a lot of food and drink this won’t be a problem.
Sounds like you have a great plan!
Post # 6
Thanks everyone! Its great to get some opinions.
I was aware about the early morning thing. I’m kind of a morning person so I don’t think I would care, but my bridesmaids might not be too happy about it… heh. I also hadn’t really thought that much about timing or anything yet… and if we do it I’ll definately make sure there is a ton of food. thanks for the tip ArwenBride.
@kfricke89 We haven’t decided on whether or not we’ll be doing a first dance. I think I might miss it if we don’t have one, but I’m not too keen on having to dance awkwardly by ourselves for 3-5 minutes in front of all our friends and family. Especially if there won’t be any other dancing….
Any more opinions? Dancing? No Dancing? What do you think?
Post # 7
Tons of people skip dancing at their weddings and no one misses it because they are socializing instead. With an afternoon wedding, I wouldn’t expect it anyway.
Post # 8
I’m having a brunch reception without dancing. I don’t think people will mind, and I think in the end, whatever you can offer them will be appreciated.
We’re having our party at a private home also and it’s more casual, so some of the things that we’re doing which you could think about for yours are: bocce ball, badminton, and maybe a pinata for the kids (but admittedly, those things would change the tone of your event). You could also do croquet, ping-pong, a wine & cheese tasting before the meal…Either way, I think that people will have a great time just breaking bread together. Some people might even be relieved not to have to dance at a wedding!
Post # 9
I’ve been a guest at a wedding without dancing and it was still a great day (and I LOVE dancing). The thing that made it wonderful was that the B/G made sure to come and see each table, spend time visiting with them and thanking them for being there, etc. It made it a more personal/intimate occasion. Also, things wrapped up rather nicely/there was a clear time when things were ‘over’ and guests were no longer expecting something (cake cutting, bouquet toss, etc). Many guests appreciated that since it was winter and there was enough time for people to return home before it was too late, so there wasn’t a need for a hotel. I think that as long as there’s a clear ‘plan for the day’ guests will know what to do/what’s coming next.
Post # 10
We’re doing a brunch wedding. The wedding starts at 10 the brunch at 11. There will be little dancing for us. We may do a first dance, may not. Dunno and we’ll kind of wing it lol. The kids will have activities. There is a park adjacent to the venue and they will have a bubble machine to play with… I will also have a kids table with coloring pages for them…
We are also doing donuts, hot chocolate and coffee for the guests as they arrive because I think that an early wedding will have them skipping their breakfast.
We are doing a brunch with a bunch of breakfast foods, but we’ll be tossing in extras like lasagna and salad, and a beer bread and dip.
Post # 11
I’ve been at weddings without dancing, and some were fun and others were less so. I personally love to dance and am disappointing when weddings have no dancing, but that is the prerogative of the bride and groom–there are a lot of things that some people like to do that other people don’t have at their weddings!
The one no-dancing I went to that was a little odd was one where they still had a band, but no dancing. We kept on expecting dancing to start, but it didn’t!
Post # 12
Thanks for the input everybody! I appreciate all the advice and suggestions.
We’re still not decided, but I feel like I’ll be able to make an informed decision now. 🙂