NO DANCING AT MY CHRISTIAN WEDDING

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

umm…may I ask what kind of Christian you are because I have never heard of this. I am very much a Christian, raised Methodist, and have attended various different Christian churches and I have never come across this. I think this is particular to whatever sect you are affiliated with. My nephew and his wife are very Southern Baptist and they had dancing at their wedding. Is it possible to have dancing if the reception is off church grounds?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve never heard that.  Which Christian sect is this?  Didn’t Jesus turned water into wine? And there’s the Book of Songs in the Bible.  I can go on and on. 

If you are not having the reception on church grounds, let everyone have a good time.  Play appropiate music and have a champagne toast.  

Enjoy yourself and you may possibly need to find a new Church home.

Good Luck

Post # 6
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

if your pastor wants this and not you, why would you do it?  your pastor can’t control your reception.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Karenxguzman: I’ve seen that on the 19 kids and counting show… they are christian and at their son’s wedding there was no dancing.. I don’t even think there was music because they didn’t want to tempt the body or something like that…. I will have to see if I can find the episode..

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My feeling, and this is just my feeling so take it anyway you want, is that this is the wrong church for you. If your inate feeling is that you want to celebrate your wedding with dancing, you have that right. There are MANY MANY Christian Churchs out there that have no problem with dancing. You might take a few Sundays and check out some other churchs and see if you find one that really feels right, that already jives with what you feel towards religion. I think they may call themselves liberal, but that doesn’t sound very liberal to me-again, my oppinion only, not meant as a bash.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

again, this decision is up to you and your beliefs, not your pastor’s.  she doesn’t call the shots at your reception.  if you don’t have a problem with it, which it clearly sounds like you don’t, then go ahead and have it.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Karenxguzman: do you believe that dancing is wrong? and that drinking champagne on your wedding day is wrong?  that’s all that matters here.  if you are worried that what you want might offend your pastor and you are afraid to justify yourself to her, then i have to agree with SandythePoet and say this church doesn’t seem to be the right fit for you.  You can still have the same relationship with your god at another church.  Your god doesn’t change from one church to the next.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was brought up as a Christian in a Mennonite Brethren church.  I know that different denominations have different views, but I know many Christians who have no problem with dancing. 

Is your pastor going to your reception?  I think you said it’s off church grounds, and if that’s the case I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  I know where you’re coming from with not wanting to go against what he says, but if you feel that it’s alright between you and God I honestly would dance.  It’s obviously what you want and you don’t want to regret not doing it. 

My 2 christian cents are that there is nothing wrong with “appropriate” dancing at a wedding 🙂

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

hmmm i totally don’t understand your pastor’s logic- it’s wrong in God’s eyes to dance, but if it is just for one dance, that’s ok? 

Post # 16
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I attended my good friend’s wedding and there was no dancing for them either (reception off church grounds). Not particularly due to their religion but because the officiant they wanted would not perform the ceremony if there was to be dancing after. So I really think it varies even within a denomination, and it surely varies amongst the different denominations.

If this is something that you want, then I’d suggest looking around for different churches that may fit your spiritual needs and beliefs a bit better. It’s great that you’ve gotten stronger in your faith, but you want to be in a church denomination and family that you’re comfortable in. 

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