Post # 1
Okay… My reception is going to be in the fellowship hall at the church my FI grew up going to. It’s not even big enough to dance in! So… when I brought this up to my FI, as well as his family, they all seemed to think dancing at a wedding is absurd anyway. In my family, if there is no dancing, then it’s not a wedding… I mean, seriously, the party has only begun when the dancing starts, and my family has always had receptions that have lasted until midnight or later! Not only that, but my entire family is coming from out of state, and I don’t want the wedding to last a maximum of three hours and that’s it. I want to be able to spend time with them all night before I leave for my honeymoon the next morning.
So what should we do? My mother is on a search for another location to have the reception, but the wedding is 3.5 months away, so is this too short notice. Plus, we have to find a place that is close to the church, so that people won’t have to drive too far. And also, my FI’s family doesn’t even do the whole dancing thing at weddings… So what am I supposed to do?
I really would love to have dancing at my reception. My family would be disappointed if I didn’t. My FI doesn’t want to dance and neither does his family. I’m really stuck.
Post # 3
Wow. That really sucks! I don’t mean to be mean but isn’t this something you should have discussed with your FI sooner?
I think your best bet is to see if you can find another location – and if you can, then sit down with your FI and decided what you’re going to do. My FI and I have a system where we decided on a scale of 1-10 whether we really want or don’t want something. Then we decided who wants it more and go with that option. So far it has worked out.
I’m assuming it’s not a religious reason? Because if this is the case you may have to compromise.
Even if you can’t find a new spot, you can possible move some of the tables and set up a small dance floor…..
let us know what you decide.
Post # 4
Could you possible move a few tables after dinner at your current location to make room for a small dance floor. Sounds like you won’t need too much room since it will only be your family dancing!
Also, remember that most people take leads from the couple. If your fiance doesn’t want to dance, you better get your girls out there with you or no one will start dancing!
Annoying that his family thinks dancing is absurd at weddings! Just ignore the fact that they don’t want to dance and make it clear to your future hubs that he needs to at least slow dance with you for the first dance! Make him compromise! 😉
Post # 5
It doesn’t really matter what HIS family thinks – it matters what both your families think! If your family wants to dance, his family doesn’t get to veto that. More than that, if you want to dance, he should do his best to accomodate you (marriage = compromise, right?) Maybe you don’t dance every dance all night, but he should be willing to get out there are take you around the floor a few times.
I think that he, and his family, should be helping to find another possible venue for the reception – rather than just acting as if what you want doesn’t matter. And if another venue is not possible, I would enlist a bunch of the guys to fold up tables and chairs and put them away after dinner to clear a dance floor! It sounds like it doesn’t have to be huge, since his family are a bunch of party-poopers, but who knows – maybe not having enough chairs for everyone to sit in will encourage them to dance! You would be surprised how much room you can provide just be doing away with a bunch of table and moving their chairs to the edges of the room.