Post # 1
As the title says. I told maybe one or two friends a few weeks ago I’m pregnant and I got the “so when’s the facebook status coming?”
Umm. When the baby is born maybe?
Seriously I thought I would want to but I have zero desire to share this with the people on my facebook. I’m even more quiet about it at work. Some people are starting to ask (I’m not showing but some people are guessing when I’m gagging over mac and cheese day at work. Blech!) and if they ask I tell but I’m not volunteering a thing.
I guess I just don’t feel like its anyones business but mine and the select people I decide to tell. It’s something that is very pleasantly all mine and I don’t feel like sharing it openly. I still have a job to do as well so there’s also an irrational part of me that doesn’t want them looking at me differently now that I’m 13 weeks.
Anyone else NOT feeling the need to publicly announce your pregnancy via social network etc?
Post # 3
I don’t want to do it either. But I told family I would (once we find out the gender). But after that, I probably won’t be making any more referrences to it like belly pictures or anything. It’s all MEH…. to me.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t either, although those pregnancy annoucement photos are cute! I would want to be sensitive to those who may have suffered miscarriage or are having trouble concieving. Plus, eventually someone will say something on FB, or people will see the bump through pictures anyway.
Post # 5
One of my cousins is almost 20 weeks and still hasn’t posted it on FB! I was surprised (she shares EVERYTHING on FB), and she explained it as “All my real friends and family know. My stupid college friends don’t need to!”
Post # 6
I am feeling really weird about telling people. We have told our families and two friends, but my DH told most of them. I just feel so awkward saying it. I can’t really say why. People are asking me to put it on facebook, but I really don’t want to. I haven’t told my job yet. (12 weeks today). It feels like such a personal and private thing that I’m not ready to share. I’m not sure how much longer I can hold out though because my pants are starting to get tight!
Post # 7
I never did. At first it was because of complications and I wanted to do a cute announcement but never got around to putting it together. Then at 6 months I realized I really enjoyed the privacy and didn’t get all the “how’s the baby coming along?” questions as well as all the other none-of-your-business type questions people always ask. I didnt feel like talking about it all the time anyway.
We did announce 2 days after she was born though and people were shocked. Some people seemed kind of offended we didn’t tell them (they weren’t close family or friends) but whatever.
Post # 8
I am definitely not going to post anything about my pregnancy on facebook at all, and I’m not going to post pics of the baby either…
I prefer to use facebook in a more casual way- posting funny links, travel pictures, info about artistic events, etc…I don’t like to get too personal on there in general.
Post # 9
YAY! People like ME!!!
I was beginning to think there was something wrong with me for not wanting to shout it from the roof tops like so many people seem to do….
It seems so VERY personal to me, and also it still feels a little bit surreal!
DH is so excited and has told his family and coworkers and all but I have been much more reluctant to share it with everyone.
I am about 12.5 weeks and my coworkers still don’t know… and its just an office full of women so I am proud! I am really not showing yet though.
I am really glad to know i am not the only one.. honestly, I felt like maybe I was strange or something.
Post # 10
I totally get what youre saying. When we got engaged, I was so so excited to be engaged but the thought of telling people mortified me. It was almost like I didn’t think anyone would care and I didn’t want people asking about it.
The same feeling happened When i got pregnant. I was not excited to tell people. No one but his parents knew until after the MC
Post # 11
My husband’s co worker miscarried at 20 weeks. By the time we get pregnant I will be an older mom so yep people will know when I have an actual baby in my hands. No need for a public pity party. Besides what difference does it make in other’s lives whether I’m pregnant.
Post # 12
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: I didn’t share on Facebook and won’t probably until the baby is born except for changing my profile pic the other day to one of me and my husband at my baby shower that I thought was cute. You don’t have to share with social media if you don’t want to. It’s not weird.
Post # 13
i definitely have no desire to share on FB either. i know how sad i felt reading all these pregnancy announcements when we couldn’t even start trying yet (my husband and i were in different states for an entire year). i don’t want to put other people through those feelings if they are struggling or whatnot. not to mention half of the people i’m friends with on FB are from high school and i honestly don’t care if they know. i’m more than happy to share with family and close friends though! i also think it would be kind of funny to show photos of the little social media ninja after it’s born and everyone being like “HEY I DIDN’T KNOW?!!”. heh.
Post # 14
Same! I’m not on Facebook but I shared with my family, my group of closest girlfriends and my boss and another colleague. I told them they can feel free to talk about it share the news if they’d like but I’m done announcing.
Post # 15
@SweetartMD: +1 on the I don’t tell many people but my husband is blabbing to everone. It’s sort of a weird situation. I don’t fault him for it. But the list of people that ‘know’ is like my family, his family, everyone he’s tallked to since 12 weeks. I’m just a worrier and I want to wait till we know everything is def. 100 percent ok. And you never know that as a parent. So IDK.
Post # 16
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: I hardly use facebook and purposely keep my friend list small (under 50). I figure that if you know me well then I will be telling you in person. I have no desire to share this on facebook at all.
However I am dying to share my news with family and close friends in person. I can’t wait to see how excited they are going to be, but will be waiting until 12 weeks.
As for work I am going to go as long as I can without telling people. There are two women who are about 24-25 weeks at my work and as much as I can’t wait to get to that stage with the belly and all glowy, I see how many personal questions they are asked and how people are constantly asking how they’re feeling and I’m just a pretty private person who won’t enjoy that.
Just today I was toying with the idea of not telling my aunts, uncles cousins and one grandmother whom I’m not very close to until my dad’s brithday party which is when I’ll see them next. By then I’ll be almost eight months and thought it would be fun to just show up all huge. I don’t think my dad will allow this though.