(Closed) No diamond? Why not?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Why no diamond?
    Budget : (55 votes)
    27 %
    I just don't care for diamonds. I like other stones better. : (78 votes)
    38 %
    Moral issue (blood diamond) for fiance or I. : (45 votes)
    22 %
    Other. Please explain. : (27 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I just didn’t think that an engagement ring had to have a diamond. I love diamonds, I think they are beautiful, but I didn’t think that’s what HAD to be on my finger.  I fell in love with sapphires as side stones at first.  I used to own a vintage ring that had them and I loved that ring.  I also thought about getting a really nice tanzanite because I love them.  I just grew more into the idea of having something different – having something that was my own preference. 

    Post # 4
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    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I just don’t find diamonds as pretty as coloured stones. I’m all about colour, and I love that my stone is FI’s birthstone. It has a lot of meaning in it besides being tradition, ya know? Of course, budget was big in there too. Simply put, we can’t afford a nice diamond. If we had a ton of money I probably would have considered a diamond.

    Post # 5
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    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m hoping for moissanite or asha instead of diamond mostly because I heard that DeBeers stopped mining for something like, 10 years or something (if someone knows what I’m talking about feel free to correct me) to excavate a sunken ship, and didn’t lose a single profit. If that doesn’t tell you diamonds are overpriced, I don’t know what does. I don’t feel good about that.

    Also, my car is worth about $700, as is my boyfriend’s. Until our cars are worth more than the diamond to put in my ring, I just can’t justify it. It’d leave me with that icky feeling in the pit of my stomach.

    Post # 6
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    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Diamonds are my birthstone. I got a bit disillusioned about that when I was a kid because every woman I saw had a diamond on her finger, and I would have preferred a birthstone that was rarer to see. I just never really thought that diamonds were all that special. I used to like to watch my mom’s sparkle in various lights, but I loved the dark blue sapphire in her wedding band a lot more.

    So I’m a green tourmaline girl. I don’t own a single diamond and until the day I inherit my mother’s jewelry, that is unlikely to change.

    Post # 7
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @linguo42: April here, too. 

    DH had a moral issue with diamonds. He gave me an heirloom pearl ring that has a buttload of sentimental value to both of us. 

    (Honestly, I love my ring, but I wouldn’t have minded something a little sparkly, diamond or not. I love looking at all the rings here!)

    Post # 8
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    for me, it’s moral issues and budget at the same time. canadian diamonds are the most blood-free you can possibly get, but they are very expensive.

    but also, I just think the cost of diamonds is ridiculous. I’m not going to buy a cheap diamond (I find them suspicious). as for expensive ones, I can afford it, but I’d rather spend that money on something else like good living or travelling!

    Post # 9
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I don’t have an engagement ring because I didn’t want one, but my wedding ring will have sapphires in it because I just prefer them to diamonds. 

    Post # 10
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    5658 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Because I think diamonds are overpriced, and not for any good reason. Fianically, we could have afforded a diamond no problem, but I just didn’t see the point in spending that much money on a rock when I could get virtually the exact same thing with moissanite. We went with moissanite, put 12k into our mortgage and my FI took me on an all-inclusive vacation to propose, much better ways to spend money if you ask me. The best part is I still got an absoultely gorgeous ring that easily rivals the beauty of any expensive diamond ring. I got my cake and ate it too.

    Post # 10
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    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I have a stunt double which is a CZ ring my husband bought for $30 when the jewelry store fell through. He proposed with it, wanted to buy a diamond ring, I suggested we use the saved money for the wedding, then he got laid off a week before the wedding, and I’m so happy I have a stunt double and not a real diamond. One day, I’ll get an anniversary ring.

    Post # 11
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    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I just never cared for diamonds.  I fell in love with the look of pearl rings and strongly hinted to my FI that I’d prefer one over a diamond (@FutureMrsMcK – that’s so cool that you have one too! Do you have a pic somewhere?)  I guess I’ve always thought of diamonds as a marketing ploy (thank you De Beers) and was never overly attached to them.

    Post # 12
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    4774 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    it’s so typical and everyone has one and it is not rare.

    Post # 13
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    2384 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We opted for my sapphire e-ring for a number of reasons. First, we’re both very practical with our money and didn’t see the need to spend thousands on a ring. Second, I’ve never been one to go with the crowd just because it’s the popular thing to do. I like to be different. I feel like having a non-diamond e-ring is an extension of my personality, that I like to be different and don’t care what others think.

    Post # 14
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I LOVE my sapphire (which was the FIRST engagment stone ever used :P), but I also want my garnet and onyx ring my FI will have to have made.  But that’s more because it’s the ring he’s always wanted to give me rather than a “I need/want an upgrade”.  

    But, seriously, I love my Sapphire and will wear it even after I get the one my FI wants to get me, probably on my left hand to go with my black tungsten elvin love ring.

    Post # 15
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @toshella: Not quite sitting straight. 

    Sorry OP for the momentary threadjack!

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