Post # 1
So our invitations are the self sealing kind… they fold into a square and the address is written right on the invite. I thought they were pretty cool. The RSVP card tears off and is sent like a postcard, which is also super convenient.
I just realized I may have an issue. Since they fold up, an insert with directions to the church and venue can’t be included. The addresses aren’t listed on the invites either, just the name of the church, reception venue, and my city.
Did I make a big mistake here? Can I expect a lot of confused phone calls, or do people just automatically look this stuff up? Usually, I throw away people’s directions, find the address and map it myself. Is this normal, or are people going to expect an insert? What did you guys do?
Post # 3
I think that some people will be confused since you don’t have the addresses for either location.
Post # 4
Oh no!! Sorry to say I agree with MissAsB. Are your invites done? Can you add the addresses on?
Most younger people have access to GPS or some other Nav. system and the internet to check it out. Can you put all the info on your website? That’ll prob help a lot , but older people might still be confused.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
we have a website, so after i sent out the invites, i emailed everyone as a follow-up to the invites to say “hi!” and to point them to a website for directions and accommodations. the internet savvy guests will be able to fend for themselves, but some of the others might feel a little lost. and even for the internet savvy, it would be a nice touch if you can swing it!
Post # 6
Yep… they’re all done and half addressed. Argh.
I have all of the information on our website. We included our website on our Save-The-Date Cards, but not on our invites.
Post # 7
I am torn here. Part of me thinks you should include it, but part of me thinks that unless it is super hard to find, people should do it themselves.
We are not including directions for our ceremony site, but we are for the reception – mostly because the reception is 30 minutes away, and kind of hard to find.
Post # 8
i’m literally having the same conversation right now with fi and my parents about whether or not the address is necessary! i’m leaning towards no, since it’s on our website and all our guests are internet savvy, and it will be on the welcome letters we give oot guests, who are the majority of our guests…it’ll just make the invite so wordy….ahhh i don’t know…i’m not being so helpful, but i’m totally with you
Post # 9
If it makes you feel any better, what you’re doing is actually the more traditional, etiquette-correct way of composing a formal invitation. For the older people in your life who don’t have a GPS or know how to use google maps – it’s okay, they still made it to events thirty years ago, at a time when no one had those things (or a wedding website!) and everyone STILL made it to the chapel.
I wouldn’t sweat it!
Post # 10
I’m so sorry to say this, but you have to at least include addresses. While you have a webiste, the people that will be most confused are the elderly who probably won’t look at the website either.
Post # 11
Not a big deal. Guests usually have to figure out their own way to any function, wether it be a wedding, an office party, etc. Having a website to direct guests to is a good idea, so they know what to wear, local activities or lodging if needed, and directions. Good luck!
Cinnamon Roll – what did we ever do before GPS?!?! I don’t know how we all survived! =)
Post # 12
Ouch. Well, honestly, if I were you and half done I would probably just say f**k it and send them as is, expecting a bunch of confused phone calls. Put the info on your wedding website if you have one – if you don’t, now you HAVE to do one. Email people who use email. For the older crowd you may have to deal with some phone calls. But one of the PPs was right – people managed to get to weddings for years without the internet or GPS! I think you’ll be OK. Not an ideal situation but whatever – it is what it is.
Post # 13
Actually, my Emily Post’s Wedding Ettiquette says you aren’t supposed to put the address of the church on your invitations. Just the name of the church and the city. So ettiquette wise, you’re alright! It also says the only time you must list an address is if the wedding is in a large city, and there are more than one church by the same name or close names.
Post # 14
i will actually have a problem with this in that the chapel doesnt have a mailing address its in the middle of Colonial williamsburg and the address is the name of teh building…. soooo its not gonna show up in GPS. but its well known enough that people can figure it out if they get to williamsburg.
is your venue easy to look up and find? or is it well known? if so, let it go they can figure it out.
Post # 15
Thanks for all of your input ladies, I actually feel a bit better now! We have a wedding website with addresses and locations, so that’s a plus. The venue and church are near each other, and the church is the only by that name in the area.
Since I already paid for the invites and addressed half of them, I think I’ll just keep them and deal with any calls I may get. Also, it’s nice to hear that I was unknowingly following an old etiquette rule, rather than committing an epic invite fail 🙂