Post # 1
I am an internal relationship bride .I just need to vent because I am getting married in 2 weeks and I have no dress . Because of this we decided to wear country western shirts and black wranglers . I am a country girl and thought I would be ok with this but I am really not happy and I dont have the money or time to buy a dress . I spent 35 years in an abusive marriage and nearly died form Pulmonary Embolisms after a knee replacement surgery .I am marrying the love of my life and it isnt how I wanted it to be..pass the tissue please . I wanted our big day to be perfect as possible especially for this man .It is first wedding and he is my soulmate .I wish I had done this differently .I brought a dress from the USA iht me but I was stupid and thought it was going to fit me or I could alter it but it wasnt generouse enough in the seems to alter .
Add to that ..I am in Holland and dresses are way out of my price range ..and I am plus size.
Post # 3
Maybe you can find someone locally that can do something with the dress you have? Even if there’s not enough fabric in the seams to let it out, maybe they can put in some panels or something? How much too small is your dress? Is it “If I suck it in I can almost zip it?” because maybe you could just diet/exercise your way into it? My sister had to do that with her dress; it fit perfectly when she bought it, but then put on about fifteen pounds of cream teas after she moved in with her FI.
Post # 4
@AmeriDutch: Go on used dress sites, or websites such as freecycle. Get one that fits first then alter detailing and straps as necessary
Post # 5
@AmeriDutch: What’s an internal relationship bride?
How far is the dress from fitting, if you don’t mind me asking?
Post # 6
Go to a seamstress that can replace the zipper in the back to a corset! Starting from where the dress is too tight! Get it done now and in 2 weeks it will FOR SURE be ready! Men will do anything to make their woman happy so sit your hubby to be down and explain to him that this doesnt feel right and you want to remember this day as the happiest day ever not I would have been happier wearing something else! I dont know how much an alteration like that would be in Holland but something like this is worth the money! Be happy! You’re getting married to the love of your life!
Post # 7
Sorry to hear about your dress issue! I second some of the PPs comments. If you were considering wearing a cowboy shirt and jeans, find an airy, cotton dress in white that fits. It will go with your SO’s outfit, and be comfortable. Maybe something like this?
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Post # 9
Turning the dress ito a corset back is a great idea!
Don’t give up, if you want to wear a wedding dress, make that your top priority! Try your hardest, make calls, ask for help in your area, look at used dress sites if you have to, do ANYTHING! If you can, go onto Davids Bridal’s website-they have plus sizes and can probably find one in a store in your size. Get that one shipped to you! (Just a FYI, you may have to call multiple stores yourself, but it will be worth it!)
Post # 10
@EffieTrinket: I think she means international not interal (I could be wrong)
As for the dress I would suggest getting it altered with either a corset back or adding panels to it.
Post # 11
Got a friend with a sewing machine? I made a really slick mermaid skirt out of an old pair of jeans and about six yards of fabric…you CAN still have the dress you want, just think outside the box!
Post # 12
@EffieTrinket: Sorry..I meant international…silly typo .The dress is no where near zipping and a lace up back panel would change the form of the dress and the seamstress here wont do it .TY for asking.
Post # 13
@Nona99: Oh wow..I have a sewing mchine maybe I can do that .Ty for the idea ! Maybe a denim skirt with bridal lace in all the right places..hmmm maybe it will work 🙂
Post # 14
@LovelyLaura: I have been doing that but it is International shipping and customs etc .Buying a dress here in Holland is not easy and they take a long time to order .I wish I could even borrow a dress …I need a size 26 and it isnt easy to come by but miracles happen…I wont give up.
Post # 15
Does it have to be a “wedding gown” — you know, all the white satin, purchased from a wedding boutique, etc. or would it be okay to wear something that wasn’t explicitly a wedding gown? Does it have to be white?
Do you know where your local thrift stores are? You may be able to find a dress there. Or the Dutch versions of Craigslist and Ebay (I know we have some Swedish sites that are for classifieds and auctions, and you can filter by location of the seller, so you maybe have something like that?)
What are your local chain stores? (like H&M etc.) Have you looked in them to see if they have any dresses that would do? Maybe something like this, paired with a lacy shawl?
It’s probably too late to order something, but you can definitely find *something* off the rack, you just have to get out there and look. 🙂 Do you have any girlfriends that you can make a day of it with?
Or, if you can sew yourself, and have the time in the next couple weeks (unlikely, I know! 🙂 maybe you can make something?
Post # 16
You can alter the back just buy some ribbon and sew along the back so it creates eyelets and then you can thread wider ribbon through it. If it has an invisible zip you can leave it in and no one will know the difference. You can do this in just a few hours. post a picture of the back of your dress and I am sure we can come up with a few ideas. Pity you are not in Melbourne.