- 2 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I’m currently in an LDR with my FI who I have been with for over three and a half years. We met during college and have lived in the same town as one another for a little more than two years. We started our LDR in December of last year so we are coming up on a year now. We have done LDR in the past (twice for 4 months) but we were only two hours apart and visited all the time. I just moved to another state in the midwest over 900 miles away because of a well paying and good job opportunity. My FI didn’t follow me because he is trying to apply for medical school and fears losing residency for scholarships which is potentially a lot of money. I don’t have any family or friends where I just moved but people at work have been nice and try to include me in things.
We are struggling being apart because plane tickets are $500+ and we can only manage to see eachother maybe once every two months. I have had a lot of new experiences since I moved in terms of activities and people but my he gets really upset not getting to share those experiences with me. He doesn’t have much to keep him busy since he is currently working and filling out applications for school. I know its unhealthy but it makes me not want to experience new things since he isn’t here to share them with me.
If he gets into medical school he wouldn’t start until August 2015. But we won’t know for awhile and even if he does it will be difficult to follow him. He could potentially be in a new location every year depending on what school he gets in. It’s hard for me to justify following him around to the different places he goes during school since that will hurt future job opportunities and just the expenses of moving that much. It’s almost like there is no end in sight for when we can be together again and it makes us reconsider our relationship since we both are really young and we don’t think we can do LDR for another four years. We were on the edge of calling things off today and I don’t know what to do.