Post # 1
DH & I received an invite to an engagement party yesterday; BOTH of our first names were spelled COMPLETELY wrong. Well, DH’s was wrong, they used my nickname & spelled that wrong too. Apparently a bunch of their invites went out with totally wrong names. But, seriously?! We’re friends on facebook… there is simply no excuse for such carelessness (that I can think of)!!!!!
Anybody been the recipient of name butchery? Does it bother you? Have you been a name butcher? What’s your excuse?! (I promise I won’t bite your head off)
Post # 3
@MrsRugbee: My (simple, but not at all common) last name is ALWAYS getting misspelled. Sometimes by my friends. My mother’s first name (a less common, but heard-of, spelling of a VERY short, simple name) is constantly misspelled… even by family members and her good friends. Her last name is the same as mine, so frequently her entire name is just BUTCHERED.
Post # 4
I hate that! My cousin for years misspelled my last name on correspondence. And she is family! My last name is five letters and not hard at all. It is especially irritating when someone does that and your name is spelled correctly on the envelope or card by you. Ugh!
Post # 5
Yes. On 2 occasions I attempted to RSVP online via the couple’s wedding website and I was unable to do so because the couple had misspelled my name in their database. After a few guesses of trying to register with common misspellings of my (admittedly long, but not at all complicated or uncommon) first name, I gave up. I was friends with all 4 people (both couples) on FB as well.
And once I was stranded in a strange city because my cousin (MOH) booked my hotel room and completely just misspelled my name. Like, to the point that it wasn’t even the same name and wasn’t similar enough that the front desk people wouldn’t have recognized it. Another time I noticed she tried to tag me in an FB post, but it didn’t work because she misspelled my name is the same glaring way. Both times my feelings were hurt. I still don’t know what that was all about.
Post # 6
I tried so hard to get everybody’s name correct, I sent out text messages asking to clarify the spelling and I still got some wrong.
Post # 7
That’s totally unacceptable. I check my guest lists about 3 times, then have my mom and dad each do it just to make sure. I hate being wrong and feel totally terrible if I am to someone else. We just got invited to a summer wedding and it just said “To the future Mr and Mrs” (which is totally against enveloped addressing etiquette, granted it was sort of cute) because the bride didn’t want to attempt to spell my full name (my first name is common but spelled differently and my last is just hopeless). An effort would have been nice.
Post # 8
ugh! I hear you. My name has a double letter in it and I can’t tell you the number of people (my best friends even!) who often spell it with only 1 ‘leter’ (letter) it’s so annoying!! My cousin misspelled it on the wedding thank you card she sent out.
As pp mentioned…. especiallllyyyyy with facebook there is no excuse!!
Post # 9
To be honest, I’d probably find it funny – I’m so used to my maiden name being spelled wrong and my married last name is even worse. It was my first name, I’d find it hilarious, as it’s a pretty common name (though for some reason, at work, people use like 5 different spellings for my nickname – I don’t get it…)
That said, I checked Facebook or with family/in-laws if I wasn’t sure about spelling, so I don’t understand how it happens.
Post # 10
My FI can’t spell a name right to save his life; I’m relatively sure he has dyslexia or something. At any rate, ALL his addresses would’ve had typos if I hadn’t intervened and facebook stalked his whole family. It’s made me less judgemental about spelling errors, I guess, since he really does struggle with it…it is still unacceptable though.
Post # 11
DH gave me 2 mispellings on last names of his college friends who I didn’t really know. AND when he gave them to me I asked him specifically if the spelling was correct and he said yes. AND before I sent the addresses to the calligrapher I asked him to look at the spreadsheet and doublecheck everything. I was like WTF?????
I was mortified when I got RSVPs back and realized the spelling was butchered on the invites. Nothing really to do but apologize . . .
Post # 12
If the name you go by is on facebook, then there’s really no excuse! Another pet peeve of mine is when I’m in a store dressing room and the attendant asks me my name so he/she can write it on the door. After I SPELL it out, they still completely butcher it. Like, why even ask me to spell it if you’re going to do whatever you want?
And by the way, my name only really has ONE common spelling.
Post # 13
@MrsRugbee: Here’s the thing, yeah it’s not cool, yeah they should’ve taken the time to check and not be so lazy…however, it kind of drives me crazy when BRIDES on here complain about mistakes other brides make. Like come on, did you do nothing wrong with your wedding planning. Did you really make not a single mistake? That really is sloppy work, but is it going to ruin your life? Not really. No wonder we’re all stressball psychos…the judgment train is just so out of control with everything.
Post # 14
@whitums: I took my wedding pretty seriously, so no – there weren’t mistakes on my invitations. The idea that someone couldn’t be bothered to check how my husband and I spell our names isn’t a small mistake in my mind; it’s pretty insulting.
Post # 15
I have a relatively simple name that always gets spelled wrong (first and last). FI’s last name ALWAYS gets mispronounced, though I’ve never had anyone try to spell it.
I have a LOL on my part about this, though! We invited FI’s cousin and his girlfriend. We’d never been told her last name, so I looked her up on Facebook and used the last name she had on there for both the save the date and the invitation, “Jonesish.” We got their RSVP card back and, apparently, her last name is just “Jones.” Oops!
Post # 16
My friend was more upset at the invite they got not because her name was spelled wrong but that they put her BF of over 4 or 5 years name on there and guest. We all know damn well they are together but they still put guest instead of her name! She was so upset she didnt even want to go to the wedding. I told her it was probalby just a mistake.
I often have my name spelled wrong. It is Ericka but they usually spell it Erica or Erika. Even on facebook comments and my name is right there in front of them.