No Family and Feeling Depressed

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I had the same problem.  I’m not really close to any of my family and only a couple good friends and I am totally socially ackward.  For this reason my hubby and I decided to get married at a resort in jamaica.  Just me and him went.  We had a real wedding, I had a dress, we got great pictures.  It was awesome. You guys could invite just his close relatives or go by yourself.. something to think about…

Post # 3
2245 posts
Buzzing bee

You are not alone, others go through this too. I’m in a similiar situtation. My Fiance has an enormous family that overwhelms me and I am an only child with divorced parents and all of my grandparents are gone. I have very few people to invite from my side. I am a busy, business owner with a lot of aquaintances and colleagues, but not necessarily people that I would smash together at wedding. So I understand why this makes you feel sad.

You could elope and go directly to the honeymoon, then have a gathering for family when you get back. If it’s just a gathering, there is less stress to make it perfect. Whoever shows up, shows up and no one can say they weren’t included in celebrating the union. At least if you do it this way, you can relax for your actual wedding day and not have his huge family crowd there making you feel uncomfortable. It’s supposed to be a day about you and him, not “his family party”.

Try to realize that this is your special day to celebrate with your husband and don’t let the “cookie cutter” wedding you see in movies discourage you from having a romantic & special experience. Not everyone has 8 bffs lined up and ready to be bridesmaids. A lot of introverted people exisit in the world and you don’t need to feel ashamed. I would try expressing all of what you said above to your FI. I’m sure he will want you to feel comfortable and to have a memorable day you both will enjoy. There are many ways to work it that don’t involve the traditional full fledged bash. Wishing you the best of luck! 🙂

Post # 4
14 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Chiang Mai, Thailand

Thanks for sharing your story with us. Weddings are a funny thing and the pressures and expectations that come with it sometimes seem overwhelming. While I don’t (think I) have a social anxiety disorder, I have always been an extreme introvert, have never had many friends and I have a very small family as well. I can relate to the feelings of loneliness when planning a wedding alone. While I know nothing about you, perhaps its ok to share some advice that has been helping me….simple and basic – remember this is only about you and your fiance. Family and friends are great too, but the whole reason for the event is embracing a commitment to each other. If you feel you want to embrace the idea of family on a day like this – don’t forget that once your married – his family will be yours too. Love is something big enough to be shared and blood is not the only thing that defines a family. 

Also, the weddingbee community (while  strangers) have been a wonderful place for me to share and connect with wedding needs that I have no other outlet for in my personal life. Reach out when you are feeling lonely. There are people here too. Congrats on your engagement. 

Post # 5
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Hi hun, sending hugs your way!

I know how you feel, anxiety disorders make it very hard to find friends. My fiance’s friends grew attached to me, otherwise I wouldn’t have any! I don’t have any of my own. I’m sorry about your family, but think how happy his family will be to see you. 🙂 His family is becoming a part of your family now as you unite in marriage, so you’re NOT alone!

My family won’t be present at my wedding either so this post spoke to me a lot and in a way helped me work through some of my own feelings. I know that “loser” feeling, like you have no one, but you have your fiance. You don’t have to walk down an aisle by yourself, you could walk down together holding hands. He could even help you into your dress.

It hurts to feel alone and essentially unloved, but when you think about it, you have an amazing opportunity to spend the whole morning with your fiance before the wedding! Have breakfast together, let him help you get ready and help him get ready, do a First Look and bask in your togetherness. 🙂

Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to.

Post # 6
6 posts


I just called off my wedding, but I do know how you feel. My ex-fiance had a lot more friends than I did, and all of my friends (except for 1) were mutual friends that I knew through him (and still think of more as his friends than mine). 

I’ve since decided that if I get engaged again that I would really like to elope, or elope with just a few close people present. This way you don’t have to have a big party with lots of people you don’t know or really care about, and could just have a small intimate ceremony with your mom and his immediate family (who will soon be your family!). 

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