No family attending, very few guests, no money – can i skip reception? …. :-(

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The only family I had at my wedding was my mom. I didn’t invite any other people related to me as I don’t time them. 

 

You can serve whatever you want. You can do vegetarian and alcohol free. I’d make sure your FI is ok with this though. 

 

as for the reception – how many guests are you expecting? If your mom and sites aren’t coming, and your friends can’t make it, who is going to be there? How many of FI’s friends/family will be attending? 

 

You can always do a cake and punch reception. Or a lunch/brunch meal. Both of those are much cheaper but its still some time to celebrate with your guests

 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@BrideofChrist:  

Etiquette does *not* require someone to host a wedding that he or she cannot afford. All it requires is that, if you do host some type or reception, that you provide whatever is to be served to your guests.

I have had friends whose budgets were very tight, and they hosted “punch and cake” receptions in their church’s fellowship halls following their ceremonies. Such receptions provide a time of celebration with — and very light refeshment for — those who are in attendance and are not a huge cost burden for a couple or their families. The only caveat concering having a lighter reception is that you should not hold it during a traditional meal time. An afternoon reception would likely be best.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@BrideofChrist:  the ceremony is the most important part of the wedding. A reception is optional. Anyway it’s your day so whatever you feel most comfortable with is ok.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

For entirely different reasons we didn’t have a reception. Instead, we served cake and champagne at the church and then drove off into the sunset…

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BrideofChrist:  no one asked where my family was. All of my friends know that they are crazy 🙂 

since your situation is a bit different, I think you can do whatever you like! I’d do cake and punch and I would put thairon the invitation – cake reception to follow or something like that. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you ask your priest or members of the church what is typically done after these ceremonies? I would think, if anything, your church community would want to have an informal gathering, like a potluck, that you would not have to pay for.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would suggest having the ceremony at a non-meal time, having punch and cake and thats it.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think people will understand. I would just put something like “reception with light refreshments” or “dessert” to follow on your invitations.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We put “Cake and Merriment to follow” on the bottom of our invites and served cake and punch

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

No need to pay for a hotel. You could provide a list of nearby hotels as a courtesy but I really don’t think anyone would expect you to pay for it.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@BrideofChrist:  Why are you guys even inviting anyone?. You only need two people there to be wittnesses on the  the marriage license. Skip all the craziness and so that you won’t hurt feelings just have you your SO the officiant and the wittnesses. 

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