Post # 1
Keeping in mind that there is NOTHING traditional about our marriage celebration except that I am wearing a big ol’ dress…
Would it be completely tacky to not have any favors at all? None of the popular stuff suits us or our guests, and all the things I think are great unique ideas are either too expensive or too difficult to pull off in 3 months. But I certainly don’t want anyone leaving our party to be offended that they weren’t given anything.
What do you think?
Post # 3
We’re leaning towards not doing favors. As a guest, I honestly don’t care about getting favors and I see it as a waste. I’ve either gotten edibles (like Hershey Kisses or specially wrapped chocolate bars that get eaten at the reception) or useless trinkets (like soap). I see no reason why guests need a favor – they’re getting food and a party!
If we do get favors, it’ll be to replace the bouquet/garter toss. We’re thinking of doing $1.00 lottery scratch-off cards and have the guests do them at the same time and see who the winners are.
Post # 4
We are NOT doing favors. I wasn’t drawn to any favor either, so we didn’t want to waste money on them just to follow some tradition. Instead, we are paying $75 to have an ice cream sundae bar. It’s not traditionally done and will be a treat, especially since it looks like we’ll be having 15 or so kids at the reception
Post # 5
none here, I’m sure my guests wont care 🙂
Post # 6
We had a mostly traditional wedding and still didn’t do favors. I personally thought they were a waste since at every wedding I go to, they either get eaten or thrown out.
Call me ungrateful but I’m already giving them the present of a meal and fun I don’t see the point of a piece of junk or more candy.
Post # 7
We’re having a photobooth instead of traditional favors. I agree with PPs that favors are totally a waste in my opinion. The photobooth will print two copies of each strip, one for us in our memory book and one for the guest as a favor. Works perfectly!
Post # 8
We are not planning to do favors as I find them to be usually a waste of money and we rarely ever keep the non-edible favors. We’ve gotten everything from a display/fancy tea set to succulent plants and we’ve literally just given them away to people, like Future Mother-In-Law. I’m actually going to do a charity donation and probably include a little, inexpensive postcard/moo card size card that mentions the charity donation. It will be one near and dear to our hearts so I feel better that they get the money than wasting it on a bunch of little favors our guests won’t care for. We also have a photobooth and the photostrips will have our logo/monogram on it. That’s pretty much the only things we keep from weddings we attend.
Post # 9
We’re not planning to do favors either. No one really likes them anyway. UNLESS, it’s something really nice like a photobooth photos or mini-wine/champagne bottles but if you can’t do it, I’m sure no one would even mind.
Post # 10
I feel much better about it now! Thanks beez.
Post # 11
Just joining the chorus — we are not doing them either. We made the decision for logistical reasons and because our Out of Town bags (which everyone will receive) are going to be loaded, but I was thinking about weddings I’ve been to over the last four years or so and only ONE had favors (Hershey kisses in a little tulle bag — nice, but unncessary considering we just ate a big meal and were having cake. Also – July wedding, those suckers melted.) The weddings where we didn’t have favors were traditional/elegant. One was a tented garden affair with all local-organic produce, another was a seriously fancy country club with lobster and sirloin entrees, another was an old school Boston ballroom with 480 guests…. you get the point. The idea that there was “skimping” never crossed my mind. And I definitely wasn’t offended — I wasn’t traveling to God-knows-where, paying for hotel rooms, dedicating a full weekend of my time, buying cocktail dresses and gifts all because I really, really, really wanted that $2 tchtchoke! In fact, I don’t think I realized the lack of favors at all of these until I started typing this post.
Post # 12
we arent doing favors—we love animals & are vegetarians so we are having a framed picture of our pets with a sign that says “in lieu of favors, we have mande a donation to the ASPCA in honor of Macbeth & Jezebel”
Post # 13
From the mouths of babes (Emily Post. Or Miss Manners. I can’t remember which, but one of the two–and I’m paraphrasing):
The idea of favors comes from children’s birthday parties. Children need favors because it’s difficult for them to watch one child open presents and get all the attention, so the favors are there to help “soften” the disappointment. Adults, however, do not have this problem and it’s a bit ridiculous to think that everyone should get a trinket for accepting YOUR hospitality. If you like them, fine, but they are in no way required.
I agree–I’ve never been disappointed if there weren’t any favors. And 80% of the time, if there is a favor, it’s not something I’d want or keep–most amount to clutter.
Post # 14
We’re not doing favors. I was on the fence— didn’t want them but thought it was one of those “must have” things— then my venue coordinator told me how many of the favors get thrown away and I figured it was a waste of money to order stuff that people don’t care about. Got my confirmation at a friend’s recent wedding where the majority of the favors were still on the tables when the staff flipped the room to set up for dancing; we actually took ours with us and wouldn’t you know, those silly little almond baggies are still shoved in my suitcase somewhere!
Post # 15
I think it’s absolutely fine if you do not have favors at your wedding.
Post # 16
I would never care about not receiving a favor at a wedding. Honestly, unless a favor is edible (like the amazing chocolate truffles I received at one wedding), I don’t even really notice them. I have never once used a beer koozy with the couples’ names on it, or a cotton sack with the couples’ wedding date on it… They are nice thoughts for sure, so I don’t mean to sound ungrateful (it truly is the thought that counts) – but I almost felt bad that these couples wasted their money on something that hardly anyone would ever use. I always see so many of the favors left behind at the end of the night, and it just seems so wasteful.
So, in short: Don’t worry about it. Skip the favor!