Post # 1
So I am thinking of not having a flower girl at out wedding. They only little girl we have in our family is my cousin’s 6 yr old daughter. I don’t really like my cousin and she didn’t come to our engement party , which i found rude. Also, her little girl is grumpy, she never smiles, I don’t want to have a grumpy flower girl 🙂 Our best man has a little girl who is super cute, if we have her then I think my uncle and cousin are going to get mad because we are having some stranger be our flower girl ( they don;t know her) But pictures with flower girls are sooo cute! What should I do ?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
We’re not having flower girls, because we’re keeping the wedding kid-free for numbers. Don’t choose one just because you ‘have’ to – go with your gut instinct! 🙂
Post # 4
If you don’t have a child that you realllllly want to be it, then IMO, why bother? The only reason I’m going to have one is because my youngest sister will only be 7 and she will LOVE doing it. And she’s my sister, so that was pretty obvious.
Also – if you want to use your friend’s kid and not your cousin’s – why does it matter if they get all “we don’t know her” about it? I mean, that’s weird. It’s not like it’s your siblings’ kid or immediate family.
Post # 6
I had a perfectly well behaved, very adorable, almost 4 year old niece, and we still scrapped the flower girl. I don’t think it’s an issue.
Post # 7
I believe that if you want a flower girl or don’t want one, it should be yours and your FI’s decision alone because it’s your wedding.
So if you want to have your best man’s daughter be your flower girl, I totally think you should. It’s not right for your family to make you feel guilty about your decisions. But if you want to appease them, maybe you could have both of them be flower girls together. On the other hand, if you don’t really want a flower girl, then don’t even worry about it. Personally, I don’t think I am going to have one (for lack of adorable flower girl-aged children in our lives), and I think our wedding will be just fine without one 🙂
Post # 8
Totally your decision. The only thing you MUST HAVE are an officiant and two witnesses.
Post # 9
My niece is our flowergirl, but she’ll be the only child at the wedding and she is 10. If it wasn’t for her, we wouldn’t have one. Don’t worry about it.
Post # 10
yup, i think if you want one because of pics or whatever and you want your best man’s kid, then you should have her! if you don’t want one at all, then don;t have one.
Post # 11
I have 4 nieces under the age of 5. It would be impossible to choose between them without upsetting someone, and no way are we having 4 flower girls! So, we scrapped the flower girl idea altogether and no one seems to think there is anything out of the ordinary about not having one. If you want your best man’s little girl to do it I say go for it, but don’t do it just because you feel like you “have to”.
Post # 12
Totally OK. I was kind-of forced into having 2 flowergirls and a ring bearer…but I am happy that they did it now. At the time though…not so happy.
Post # 13
I say pick the BestMan’s kid. Who really wants to look at pictuers of a sourpuss faced flower girl forever. She’s your cousins kid, not your sisters kid.
Post # 14
@eli11: Flower girls and ring bearers aren’t a requirement – we didn’t have them.
That said, your Best Man’s daughter is hardly a stranger (is she?), but if it will cause family drama – eh, it may not be worth it.
Post # 15
It’s not a requirement to have a flower girl or ring bearer at all. My husband and I didn’t have either one at our wedding, and that was just because we didn’t want them.
Post # 16
We went kid free as well! I wanted everyone to have a good time instead of hearing the little ones screaming and crying at 10:30pm!