Post # 1
Hi! So my FI and I have decided for our June 2014 wedding not to have children in attendance, and therefore have opted out to have a flower girl and ring bearer (the best man will carry the rings). For one, we don’t even know any small children who would even do it and frankly, we’d rather keep it an adult only affair. However, my nephews will be part of everything of course (aged 8 & 12 by then) and will serve as junior groomsmen.
I know it’s not traditional and was wondering if anyone else did this? And what was your experience? 🙂
Post # 3
We’re not having a flower girl or ring bearer either…same deal, we don’t really want kids there (mostly don’t want their parents obligated to them!). I don’t feel weird about it at all, I just wonder if I’ll miss pictures of those little cuties all dressed up!
Post # 4
I’ve been to lots of weddings without FGs and RBs, including my own. We only had two children we could maybe ask, and they were too young (1 and 2). I’m a believer in only using kids who are actually in your life (like you have) rather than using your neighbour’s cousin kid who you don’t know.
In answer to the last part of your question, I think it would be weird to look back on my wedding photos, and see cute kids who I hardly know.
Post # 5
We decided not to have any kids at the wedding so we are not having a ring bearer or flower girl. The best man will carry the rings. 🙂
Post # 6
None here! I wish our doggy could be ring bearer, but even if we wanted to fly him all the way to the US (he would not enjoy that!) I don’t think he could do it without somehow ending up eating them. (Little guy is a walking vaccuum, if he can reach it, and it fits in his mouth, he will find a way.)
So I figure we’ll just have the best man or someone hang onto the rings.
Post # 7
We aren’t having a ring bearer. We will still have a flower girl.
Post # 8
I do have small children the right age in my family. But I just think it is a bit distracting to try to herd them down the aisle, then entertain them during the ceremony. Not including tiny kids in the wedding just seems like one less headache in my opinion.
Post # 9
We aren’t having a ring bearer or flower girl. First, we don’t kno any kids young enough or even young kids in general. Second, it just doesn’t fit our wedding to have either of those. I don’t see any problem in it. Frankly, I don’t think anyone will miss it from our wedding.
Post # 10
We aren’t having either as well! It would be a small children army if we did as we wouldn’t be able to choose between both of our neices and nephews!
Post # 11
we aren’t even having a wedding party, much less ring bearer and flower girl! my sister is my MOH, and that’s it 🙂
Post # 12
We didn’t have either because we didn’t know of any young children that we were comfortable having in the wedding. The best man held onto the rings. It worked out just fine and we have absolutely no regrets.
Post # 13
We didn’t have a flower girl or ring bearer. I have three kids from my previous marriage and my oldest (12 at the time) was my MOH, my middle daughter (almost 9 at the time) was a jr. Bridesmaid and my son (5) was a jr groomsmen and actually walked me down the aisle with my dad. MOH and BM carried our rings. It all worked out great 🙂
Post # 14
I am not having either as well. Mainly because the kids we know are either too young or too old so it will not work and I am not concered about it at all really. It will make the procession down the aisle go quicker.
Post # 15
We just didn’t know any age appropriate kids, so we skipped them.
Post # 16
We’re not having a FG, but my godbrother (basically? It’s complicated) will be 5 right before the wedding, so he’s going to be our RB. If I didn’t have him, we would’ve skipped the whole thing. I can’t trust any other kids to behave.