No $$$ for final payment

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Hostess
2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sorry you are dealing with this stress two weeks before your wedding! 🙁  Is it possible to maybe set up an extended payment plan with your venue?  Can you arrange making payment after the wedding?  This will give you some more time to save and you won’t have to worry about uninviting guests.  Is there anything else you can cut costs on?  Rentals?  Decor?  

Post # 4
Member
1996 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sorry but I definitely think it’s wrong to hate them. Yes they are flaky or whatever but you should never count on money you don’t have. After the deposit incident you should have prepared for this. It’s not like they have to give you money, it’s a nice generous gesture. It’s effed up to spring it on you last minute but you can’t dwell on it. The wedding is super close you just have to roll with it. Cut cost elsewhere if you don’t have the additional money. 

Post # 6
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4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MsSparklyBee:  +1

“It was a struggle to get them to put half of the deposit down. on the due date itself, they’ve told me they cant come up with half of the deposit amount. Me and my fiancee were firm about telling them that we have agreed upon this and everyone was given enough notice.”

I get that they “offered”, but when push came to shove, you had to strong-arm them to get the money, which I personally never would have done. That’s a huge red flag from the get-go.

Yes, you’d be 100% in the wrong to hate them. Cut costs elsewhere.

 

Post # 8
Member
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@worriedconfusedbride:  You have every right to be upset with them. How can they do this now?? What a mess. Here are some tips on what to do:

-Talk to the venue to see if you can set up a payment arrangement

-Reduce the size/type of cake you have

-Borrow money from a friend/another family member

Do not univite guest who have already planned on attending. You may even have some no-shows, which would help. Do not get into an argument with your inlaws.

Just talk to your FH about it, discuss it with Mom and put your heads together to figure out a way to get through the wedding. It will work out fine.

 

Post # 9
Member
657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Did you ever think that your FI’s parents can’t afford it? Maybe they just didn’t want to tell you that when your parents are also contributing? The fact they had a hard time paying the deposit was your first red flag.

Post # 10
Member
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@worriedconfusedbride:  It’s definitely not wrong to hate the position they put you in!

(I’m sure it’s not them you hate, just the STRESS!)

Don’t worry… It will all be over soon!

Post # 13
Member
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

I dont think you should hate them…
Honestly, (even though they had an agreed amount) at least they gave you what they have…
My fiance and I are paying for our wedding ourselves… no help from any family whatsoever; and it’s truely hard. We havent even had anyone offer to help, yet they want to have their input as to what to plan and how to have the wedding… And so while it’s very embarressing (your situation) if they dont have it, they dont have it… Dont be in a bad relationship with the in-laws; that puts a strain on you and your fiance’s relationship. I agree to call the venue and see if you can set up an agreement with them… Or try to cut cost elsewhere… Maybe you dont have to have them extra flowers somewhere… Dont hate them at all… At least they did give you some 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 15
Member
1346 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe suggest a big garage sale or something to get some extra funds quickly. If you get several family members to donate to one you can make some money to help cover it. I agree they shouldn’t have made promises they couldn’t keep.

Post # 16
Member
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am very sorry you are going through this. I agree with the other comments. Definitely DO NOT uninvite guests.

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