No Formal Invitation to Follow…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@cardina8:  Switch it around. Do an e-mail/digital STD and a formal invitation.

Post # 4
1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@thenewmrsmax:  Agreed. You should sent a snail mail invitation and direct your guests to RSVP online, if that is what you want them to do. You could send out a digital STD directing them to your website.

Post # 9
7920 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Well technically it is still a formal invitation. The formal party in formal invitation refers to the act of being invited and not the actual paper.

I think since this is a relatively new idea (to go paperless) you will be met with some opposition. I think as long as you are prepared to follow up  a lot of RSVP’s(so call each missing rsvp) then you wont have a problem.


Post # 10
2969 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i agree with thenewmrsmax. that’s what we did- online save the date’s and paper invitation.

Post # 11
13451 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

You could just say “Electronic invitation to follow – watch your inbox!” or something.


Post # 12
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’d do what other bees are suggesting and make the STDs digital and the formal invitation actual paper. Not everyone is email savvy and sometimes important things can be automatically filtered into the junk/spam folder. 

Post # 13
5619 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Duncan:  +1

Just indicate “electronic invitation” or simply “invitation” or “detailed invitation” to follow.

IF you wnat to cut down on waste. why mail STD?  

Post # 14
65 posts
Worker bee

I’m thinking of doing this since the recipients of our save the dates are using the RSVP function on the website already. Something about the paper Save the Date says ‘this is the real deal’, the invitation is just confirming the logistical details in some ways. 

We are having quite a small wedding (hoping to end up with 60). Half the guests are my partners family, who wild horses couldn’t keep away, half are close local friends, an half are my friends and family based 7k miles away which means people will buy tickets / commit quite early.


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