Post # 1
So I’ve been planning our wedding and making up a guest list, and with all our extended family (some of whom won’t come) and all our friends we have about 85 people.
It’s been suddenly making me feel like I have no friends when everyone tells me they have had 100 – 200 people at my wedding and me adding everyone I know is ‘small’!
It’s really getting me down 🙁 I thought we had quite a few friends but when you list them like that….
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I’ve noticed this too..even though our guest list is near 150…the number of people invited not related to us – ie. just our friends is small. I have like three including two bridesmaids and FI has around ten.
His sister invited 450 people to her wedding and 250 showed up. Now her and her DH have A LOT of friends! I would be inviting near strangers to get those kind of numbers!
What’s most important though is that the people there are those who are close to you, love and support you.
Post # 4
We are having about 3/4 family 1 quarter friends for 100 people. And that includes +1’s which we may have never met. If that makes sense.
Post # 5
don’t worry. i wanted an 80 person wedding, DH wanted a 300 person wedding.
since my mom was paying, DH was told how many people he could invite.
I only had 50 people (family and friends) total to invite. DH started his list and at some point told me he had 50 people on it. I thought, perfect, 100 is a great number to invite. He immediately corrected me and said that was his friends list.
He ended up inviting 50 friends and 30 relatives.
Yes, he has a TON of friends. It made me feel bad for a short second, but I got over it pretty quick.
Post # 6
@futurejhart: We are inviting 123 people total and probably 15 of them are friends from work or school. That’s for us combined as a couple. It doesn’t seem like ‘enough’ but that’s ok because they are the friends that really matter. 🙂
Post # 7
@futurejhart: We have 118 on our guest list, that includes about 18 children under the age of 8. Of that, about 40 is my family, 25 is FH’s family so about 35 friends – most of whom are married so that includes their plus ones. So really, we only have about 15-20 friends invited to the wedding MAX between the 2 of us. I felt the same way – like I had no friends compared to other weddings I’ve been to. I could invite a lot more people that I know, but I don’t really want to.
Post # 8
@futurejhart: I think most people with large weddings have large families, not necessarily a bunch of friends. My list is 130 (JUST MY SIDE) and that’s only including my 4 closest friends and their partners.
Post # 9
I feel like this, too! FI and I have the same friend group from college, so they’re all invited, but he has 20+ friends from high school and law school to invite (as well as some of their SOs)…I’m inviting my 2 friends from high school (plus their SO/DHs) and a former co-worker that I’m close with.
I have a bigger family, though, so it all works out! Don’t feel bad!
Post # 10
Our guest list is over 350 people, but the large majority of them are family. My dad has six siblings, my mom has five siblings, then they’re all married with 3+ kids, so yeah it’s crazy. Then my parents invited their friends. So our friends really only came down to like 40-50 people, which is a small majority of the 350.
Post # 11
I have friends-FI and MOH. That’s about it, to be honest.
Post # 12
We invited 300 people but out of those 300 we invited maybe 20 friends that were “our” friends as opposed to family friends it family. So a large wedding doesn’t necessarily mean you have a lot of friends- just a large family!
Post # 13
@futurejhart: can we exchange problems? :-p
i have too many friends and I really want a small wedding… Don’t wanna hurt anyone’s feelings though :S
Post # 14
@futurejhart: We invited 160 people and a majority of that was family. We didn’t feel obligated to invite every single person we had met on our walks of life. Yes unfortunatley some “friends” weren’t invited but these people were not close. This is often how guests lists get so high. Either by obligation or the desire to have everybody you know be invited (or you have enormous families).
I wouldn’t fret with 85 people, that is a very nice size for a wedding.
Post # 15
@futurejhart: giirl you live in dc, i will be your friend!! pm me!
Post # 16
@futurejhart: I second what @MexiPino: said. We are inviting 225 we epect 120-150. Out of those numbers about 20 of them are our friends. I really wish our wedding was less than a hundred. Don’t worry your wedding will be intimate and you will get spend more time with everyone.