No gift?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: To send thank yous or not?
    Send generic thank yous to both couples : (5 votes)
    42 %
    Send a personalized thank you to the MC & his gf, but a generic one to the other couple : (3 votes)
    25 %
    Send a personalized thank you to the MC & his gf, nothing to the other couple : (0 votes)
    Don't send thank yous to either : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Send personalized thank yous to both couples : (3 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @mm86:  Send thank you cards to everyone for the fact that they were present for your day. Be specific thanking those for the gifts received that you know of for sure. Be general and thank people for coming if you are unsure they gave a gift/card. Supposedly they have a year to send you a gift anyhow, but in the meantime you can be courteous and gracious. As for your friend who was the MC, perhaps he/she considered their service a gift, and so you can thank them for their help. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2047 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @mm86:  I’d send one to the MC saying thanks so much for doing a great a job and being a part of the day etc….. but….he may have just forgot the card cause he was “involved” with the wedding and got busy (Ive done that) and given the couple a card/gift after the fact.

    As for the other couple…. unless they travelled or went through some expense they prob just didnt get you one. I actually had 20 people attend (out of 130) who didnt get us so much as a card…(and our box was guarded heavily until it was put into saftey deposit box at the hotel so theres basically no chance of them having gottin lost). There were some really close friends as well which was really surprising…. but oh well.

    I did have some of those people send us cards in the mail a good few weeks after the wedding as well…so maybe one is on its way?

    If they didnt get you even a card I wouldnt send a thank you because you probably verbally spoke to them at the wedding and said “thanks so much for coming?” maybe?

    I think thank you cards are for someone who gifted….. or carded…..Some people also think thank you cards for just showing up is a bit overkill cause it kinda “points out the obvious” that they didnt gift….so its kind of hard to say (cause like you said if they did gift you then they think your rude lol)

     

     

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