Post # 1
So we started writing out our thank you cards last night and my husband suggested we first make a list of who had given us a gift/card so we’d know who to write thank yous to. We wrote out a list and realised that we didn’t have a card or gift from 2 of the couples. I’m unsure if the cards may have just gotten lost or if we actually received anything from them? We had a card box at the reception and opened all of the cards at my husbands parents’ house the day after the wedding. I don’t know if we misplaced a couple cards or if they were never there in the first place?! I don’t remember who all got us cards/gifts, I only have the actual cards still in the cardbox (with what they gave us written on the back of the card). When we opened the cards we put them right back into the cardbox.
The one is just surprising because they’re very good friends of ours and one of them was the MC! So I’m not sure what to do with the thank you cards? Do we send them or not? We want to send one to the person who was our MC, but we never received a card or anything….so do we just basically say thanks for MC-ing and that’s it?
I just can’t help feeling like we lost the cards (although I’d have NO idea where/how) and would feel like a total jerk not sending a thank you card if they did in fact get us a gift!
Post # 3
@mm86: Send thank you cards to everyone for the fact that they were present for your day. Be specific thanking those for the gifts received that you know of for sure. Be general and thank people for coming if you are unsure they gave a gift/card. Supposedly they have a year to send you a gift anyhow, but in the meantime you can be courteous and gracious. As for your friend who was the MC, perhaps he/she considered their service a gift, and so you can thank them for their help.
Post # 4
@mm86: I’d send one to the MC saying thanks so much for doing a great a job and being a part of the day etc….. but….he may have just forgot the card cause he was “involved” with the wedding and got busy (Ive done that) and given the couple a card/gift after the fact.
As for the other couple…. unless they travelled or went through some expense they prob just didnt get you one. I actually had 20 people attend (out of 130) who didnt get us so much as a card…(and our box was guarded heavily until it was put into saftey deposit box at the hotel so theres basically no chance of them having gottin lost). There were some really close friends as well which was really surprising…. but oh well.
I did have some of those people send us cards in the mail a good few weeks after the wedding as well…so maybe one is on its way?
If they didnt get you even a card I wouldnt send a thank you because you probably verbally spoke to them at the wedding and said “thanks so much for coming?” maybe?
I think thank you cards are for someone who gifted….. or carded…..Some people also think thank you cards for just showing up is a bit overkill cause it kinda “points out the obvious” that they didnt gift….so its kind of hard to say (cause like you said if they did gift you then they think your rude lol)