(Closed) No gift at the reception

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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340 posts
Helper bee

Nothing. It’s not good manners to say anything, because they don’t HAVE to give you a gift, even if they say they are going to. If you say anything it will come off as if you are just worried about getting presents.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I don’t think you can say anything. We had the same thing happen here , I tend to think they just forgot. My sister got one of her gifts 3 years later. Don’t dwell on it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I think this is just a re-worded post regarding your same issue.  I get that you might be mad, but no matter which way you state the situation, you probably still shouldn’t say anything.  The person may still be planning on giving you a gift.  Technically, they do have a year. 

Even if they don’t give you a gift and never intended to, what do you hope to gain by saying something?  Being rude isn’t going to get you a gift.  It’s probably just going to offend them and potentially ruin the friendship.  Is that really worth an extra place setting or fluffy new towels?

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I know it sucks to not get a gift, but sometimes there are other factors contributing to the situation. And even if there isn’t, is no gift a big enough deal to let it affect your friendship? That’s just something you have to consider in a situation like this.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Maybe they will bring you a gift next time you see them.  You never know.  If they don’t, then yes, I would ignore it.  Give them some time and be patient. 

In all honesty, I *just* managed to get a gift off to my cousin who got married two months ago.  Granted, I did not attend her wedding, but sometimes life gets in the way. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

I think ‘gifts’ is your primary love language. For some it’s more important than others—The 5 Love Languages is a great book to help you understand how different people show their love and feel loved in different ways.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

perhaps the couple was just waiting until you got back from your honeymoon or waiting until the time was right for them to purchase something for you? I wouldn’t dwell on it – they made it to your wedding, right? That’s a greater sign of friendship than giving you something. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with PP, same post just different wording and I feel you are looking for a different response to justify your anger. I responded to your other post regarding this same subject, sorry no change. But no matter what, it will never be ok to be rude to anyone regarding gifts. LET IT GO and move on. There are more important things than gifts and as far as what you think someone makes is really none of your business and neither is their financial situation.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I really suggest you let it go, unless you want to ruin a friendship over it. They don’t have to get you a gift and you can not ask them why they didn’t. Plain and Simple.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would just send them a thank-you card for attending your wedding and leave it at that. You never know someone else’s personal financial situation (even if you are speculating) and in reality, even though it is commonplace, there is NO requirement to buy someone else a wedding gift. Plus to mention again makes you look greedy.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with those who say don’t mention it. It very well may come later, but it’s not worth bringing up.

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