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So I'm sure I will get flamed for this somewhat, because gifts are not required.  Here goes...

We had a wedding in a big city.  My husband and I are both students, but even so we had a very nice wedding weekend planned with events for both nights at beautiful places with dinners and open bars.  We kept the guest list on the small side (50) so that we'd be able to do this.  My brother shows up Friday night with an uninvited guest.  I was not informed ahead of time that he would be bringing anyone, nor was I asked permission.  This wasn't even a date - it was his buddy who I had never even met before.  Brother also brings him on Saturday night.  I was bothered by this but of course busy and didn't have time to really get pissed about it until after the wedding, thinking how rude it was.  Both nights after the festivities were over brother went out all night and according to my friends who were at some of the same places, spent $1000s on bottle service both nights and insisted on picking up the tab everywhere he went.  He owns his own business so this is not unusual for him. 

Two months after the wedding, we have received no card, no gift whatsoever or acknowledgment from him.  Now, before you think I am gift-grabby, I didn't receive a gift from about ten others and wouldn't have accepted it even if they had tried to give it because I know they are not financially well off, or are students like me and my husband.  I am just happy that they were able to celebrate with us.  But with my brother, I don't get it.  He is well off.  He brought an uninvited guest like it was no big deal for us to spend all that extra money after we had cut out others from the list for budget reasons.  He spent all that money on himself and friends that weekend.  I feel very hurt by his lack of gift, and I don't want to be upset by it anymore.  I would never do that to my family, and I feel like he would never treat his friends that way but doesn't care about me so much.  I really can't imagine not wanting to give him something special on his wedding day, even if it was something inexpensive just so he'd know how much I love him.  Even just a letter saying something special and meaningful.

I have thought maybe he hasn't had time to get to sending a card (anything would make me feel better), but then I see his status updates on facebook daily about "just bought the new iphone", "last-minute trip to vegas", "ordered a case of Veuve for no good reason" etc etc. 

Thoughts?  Advice?

I can top that.  We got married just 2 weeks ago.  A very small, but elegant affair.  MY husband is British and we had his parents fly in for the wedding.  Even with all the things we had to do before the wedding; running around tying up loose ends, etc., picking up family and friends from airports and train stations, carting his parents around all over the place, we still managed to be gracious hosts.  In the end, our day was perfect, except for one tiny detail.  His parents never gave us a gift either.  Nothing, nada, zip, zero, zilch....not even a hint of something to come.  And like you, we weren't getting married for the gifts.  We were happy just to have our day shared with our closest friends and family.  But everyone thought of us except his own parents.  I don't know about you, but I feel extremely slighted.  thoughts?  advice?

You guys are right I do need to let it go.  I have thought again and again about saying something to him directly.  I won't ask about the lack of gift/card, but I may mention that it wasn't cool of him to bring his friend like that.  I'm sorry for what you other ladies have gone through with the relatives too - it's really good to hear I'm not the only one with family who did something like this!