No Gifts?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

was it a DW?  That seems really strange. If the numbers were reversed, I’d think it is common.

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Not normal and absolutely RUDE of those guests!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

The gifts could be coming in still. Especially if it was a destination wedding, they will probably roll in soon. We got married almost 4 weeks ago and are still having cards arrive in the mail.

Maybe they were just a little delayed? Only 3 cards though… That’s strange.

Was your card box in a safe place? Could they have been stolen? I’ve heard of that happening too.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

not normal at all. UK ettiquette tends to be that as a guest you take gifts/cards with you to the wedding and leave them there. not sure if that differs to anywhere else. am suprised that you only received 3 cards and 3 gifts from a wedding of 60!!! 

have you checked your registry list… are you due a big delivery from your chosen store any time soon??

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

bailorchick:  Could you start by talking to some close family members, where it would be more acceptable/less awkward for you to ask the questions? It does seem rather unusual to not have received so much as a card from the bulk of your wedding guests, so I think this is a situation where it would be prudent to do some investigating.

Is there any chance that a family or bridal party member may have cleared the basket of cards for you at some stage and stored them in a safe place? I know it seems very unlikely that they would do so and not tell you, but it might be worth double checking, especially if a few drinks were had and it may have slipped someones mind. 

Good luck – I hope you are able to work out what happened one way or another.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Did you have a lot of young guests? Or maybe people gave a card or gift as a family?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

bailorchick:  I would definitely get some family members to start asking around. You can even have them say something along the lines of “oh did you leave a card or gift for __ at the venue, because the caterer was sketchy and we think they may have stolen some”.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

bailorchick:  Doesn’t seem silly, I would be hurt as well.

I hope you find out what happened to them! Especially if there was a stcak there!

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