Post # 1
hi! I was married two weeks ago. Had a very nice wedding with about 60 guests, but we only recieved 6 gifts. (three cards, three gifts) How common is this? both our families are more than stable. We had three registries with afforable gifts. Is this normal??
Post # 2
was it a DW? That seems really strange. If the numbers were reversed, I’d think it is common.
Post # 3
Not normal and absolutely RUDE of those guests!
Post # 4
The gifts could be coming in still. Especially if it was a destination wedding, they will probably roll in soon. We got married almost 4 weeks ago and are still having cards arrive in the mail.
Maybe they were just a little delayed? Only 3 cards though… That’s strange.
Was your card box in a safe place? Could they have been stolen? I’ve heard of that happening too.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
not normal at all. UK ettiquette tends to be that as a guest you take gifts/cards with you to the wedding and leave them there. not sure if that differs to anywhere else. am suprised that you only received 3 cards and 3 gifts from a wedding of 60!!!
have you checked your registry list… are you due a big delivery from your chosen store any time soon??
Post # 6
Yes, no items were purchased from our registry. No, it was not a dw. it was here in town. We did not have a card box, there was a gift table with a basket. I was kinda hurt, but then I am worried we got more card and they were stolen. Our caterer was sketchy
Post # 7
Would it be wrong to call the guests and ask? Now I have convinced myself the caterer took some cards. Both our families are very much loving, card giving folk. Even if they could not afford one, they would get a pretty card. SO if I do call, how do I say it without sounding tacky??
Post # 8
bailorchick: Could you start by talking to some close family members, where it would be more acceptable/less awkward for you to ask the questions? It does seem rather unusual to not have received so much as a card from the bulk of your wedding guests, so I think this is a situation where it would be prudent to do some investigating.
Is there any chance that a family or bridal party member may have cleared the basket of cards for you at some stage and stored them in a safe place? I know it seems very unlikely that they would do so and not tell you, but it might be worth double checking, especially if a few drinks were had and it may have slipped someones mind.
Good luck – I hope you are able to work out what happened one way or another.
Post # 9
Did you have a lot of young guests? Or maybe people gave a card or gift as a family?
Post # 10
bailorchick: I would definitely get some family members to start asking around. You can even have them say something along the lines of “oh did you leave a card or gift for __ at the venue, because the caterer was sketchy and we think they may have stolen some”.
Post # 11
No, not a lot of young guest. Maybe like four? But I talked to my mom today and she said she saw a stack of cards on the table near the cake, which was set up in a private room, which is where our gift table was. My maid of honor is my sister so I will ask her and my mother in law to call around. I am glad I posted here. I probably would have gotten to the conclusion on my own evetually. DH and I were just hurt. I know it seems silly.
Post # 12
bailorchick: Doesn’t seem silly, I would be hurt as well.
I hope you find out what happened to them! Especially if there was a stcak there!