Post # 1
We’re not thinking of doing a registry because we live together for many years an this is a vow renewal, never have an actual party though. Should we put in the invitations no gifts? What should i teld them if they ask? A few years ago, we have a baby shower, not our first child, and the family was complaining that we did not put enough gifts (to buy) at the registry. They were calling me non-stop
Post # 3
@brokeninnj: I don’t think you should put anything in the invites, and if they ask just say “Oh, we have everything we need! Your presence is all we ask for!”
Post # 4
No, just don’t register and if someone asks say you have everything you need.
Post # 5
It depends on how close to proper etiquette you want to stay. I don’t think you should include on your invite, but I think it would be fine to put a simple note on your website. We were thinking of doing no gifts, but so many family members told us that people would still get us something, and since they wouldn’t know what to get we would have a lot of items to return/exchange. I’ve seen some people do charties instead of traditional gifts, or honeymoon funds but I know most people don’t like those. We put a note on our website that the best gift would be attending (it’s a destination wedding) but also included links to two registries with household items for those so inclined.
Post # 6
Honestly, I think that people will get you gifts whether you want them or not. I never show up somewhere empty handed, that’s just how I am, and if your family is like that and you think that they would really want to buy you gifts, maybe you can do something small like an “upgrade” registry. Maybe focus on upgrading your kitchen or linens or something.
Post # 7
It’s not considered “proper” to put anything about gifts on the invite, but depending on your family and how formal the wedding is you could put something on there. On the info card or response card you could say something like “We greatly appreciate you celebrating this day with us. Please do not feel obligated to bring a gift, as your presence is present enough.”
If you think people will not like that then stick to work of mouth. When they ask where you registered just say what you said here, that you already have everything you need and you’d just like to enjoy the day with them. Since it’s a vow renewal it should be easier for people to understand that then if you were just getting married and starting out.
Post # 8
Don’t mention gifts/ no gifts on your invite. Let WOM spread that you sincerely want them to show up and have a good time.