Post # 1
My fiance wants a no-gift wedding. He doesn’t want to put pressure on all the folks who will spend a lot of money to get here to have to spend more money on us. Also, we live in a small apartment and don’t have room for a ton of new stuff – still, it would be nice to have a food processor, new cook set, and maybe a few kitchen tools.
I agree with him in spirit, but know that a lot of people will want to give us presents anyway. I was thinking that, if pressed, we could tell those people that a cuisinart or a cook set would suit us fine.
I think he’s thinking of his groomsmen (whom he didn’t give gifts to at their weddings, as he spent $1,000+ to be in the weddings), but I havea feeling that relatives and other friends will find this strange.
Is anyone else doing this?
Post # 3
we are doing something similar. We are not registering at any stores, but rather asked guests to be "creative" in their gift-giving. (we’re doing a CA wedding, but live in Georgia, so there’s no way we can bring back big gifts in our suitcases). We also have on our website some charities that guests may contribute to in lieu of a gift.
Post # 4
You could ask for only gift cards to a few choice places? Then you’re not left finding room for everything and you can buy what you want and need 🙂
Post # 5
Maybe you could register towards your honeymoon? My Fiance felt like that too, but with five months to the wedding and STD mailed only yesterday, people are already calling to see where we are registered. The problem is (as we like to say in my family) if you don’t tell us what you want or need, we will certainly get you something that you neither want nor need, in the wrong size and a really ugly color, and from some crazy store you don’t even have where you live so you can’t return it. And the cuisinart and cook set take care of like two guests… what will you do with forty of them? I would go ahead and look around someplace like Target or Bed, Bath, and Beyond. I have finally convinced Fiance that, although we have quite a lot of stuff, we can really always use a few more towels, some extra sheets, maybe a nicer set of knives…
We have decided that we will donate anything that we currently own and get new as a present to our local domestic violence shelter to help set up women and children in new homes.
We are also going to register at Home Depot, which is something you might think about if you are going to be buying a house anytime soon.