Post # 1
We were engaged on christmas eve, and our wedding is this september 3rd. I have my three girls chosen for the wedding party, they bought their dresses, good to go.
My wonderful fiance however, has not yet asked ANYONE. He has some friends, most of his good friends moved with college and or joined the military, and he doesnt talk to many of them anymore.
He claims he is still deciding. I am beginning to worry, because they need to get their fitting for tuxedos, and I’m sure the guys wold want to have enough time to be prepared.
Should I worry?
Post # 3
J asked 2 of his guys about a month after we got engaged, which would be about 7 months before the wedding, and then asked my brother about a month later, after me threatening that I was going to do it if he didn’t (he was uncomfortable because they’re not very close, but thought it was still his ‘responsibility’ haha).
He knew who he wanted to ask before we got officially engaged though.
Post # 4
haha sounds like the story line of the movie I Love You Man….My FI new who he was going to ask since before we got engaged…his buddies he has known since grade school, his cousin, and my brother
Post # 5
I don’t think you should worry, yet. You still have a little bit of time. I couldn’t stand the wait, so I kept asking my FI to ask someone, until he finally did. I just wanted one less thing to worry about.
Post # 6
When we watched “I love you man” (which I LOVED btw..) I told him that it was him, for sure.
Post # 7
My wedding is in July. I have 2 BM’s, a MOH and 3 flower girls. FI has picked NO ONE. At first I thought he was procrastinating, but he recently told me he doesn’t want groomsmen or a best man. He feels awkward asking his friends (although he has several close friends who’d be happy to do it).
I felt funny about the imbalance at first, but now I don’t care. It’s an informal wedding. We’ll just send my attendants down the aisle in various configurations and that’s that. Five minutes from now, no one will remember that I had attendants and he didn’t and there was no official best man.
We may use a Chuppah (traditional Jewish wedding canopy). I’m hoping he might ask some of his friends or family members to help hold it over us during the ceremony, but it’s up to him. I’m not about pressuring him to do things that feel uncomfortable to him.
Post # 8
My FI asked a friend but since he would need to come from overseas we have a sort of backup groomsmen plan. It makes me feel a little bad but either way my FI wants someone up there so his friends are first in line then to fill is is my brother (12 yrs old so he does nor care if he is backup), then his cousin and then his sisters FI. I totally feel this makes us seem mean but this is the only way we could make it work.
Post # 9
My FI had an idea of who he wanted to be his GM so the day after I asked my girls, he called his boys. Now if I can only get him to pick out what he wants to wear so we can get everyone fitted and measured!!