Post # 1
My cousin’s birthday is today. We are very close and talk everyday. Today is her birthday and she is feeling somewhat down because she says her fiance has not told her happy birthday. She stated he didnt make any plans for them and that her mom and grandmother planned to meet her for dinner after work and that she text her fiance and told him about the dinner and his response was just “yeah.” She stated he was feeling sick (with allergies) last night and was still sleep this morning but mustered up the energy to ask her to bring him water. Another thing is he never says I Love You. My experience is that he is a nice and somewhat thoughtful guy but he seems somewhat insensitive. I told her not to be mad, it’s still pretty early in the day but I do agree he could try a bit harder. What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I think it’s rough to judge situations like this without knowing the people involved. Maybe he’s really sick and out of it, and it slipped his mind. Honestly, when I’ve taken enough nyquil, there could be an earthquake and I’d forget to mention it to Fiance. Maybe he already knew about the plans with the mom and grandmother? Maybe they aren’t an overly affectionate couple and don’t feel the need to say “I love you” all the time. I try to avoid judging situations like this in general because everyone’s relationship dynamic is unique.
Post # 4
Hubs gets up before me, and on my birthday, he woke up late and was rushing around to get ready and out the door on time. I didn’t hear from him til after 1pm, and all it was was a text saying, “happy birthday baby, I love you and will call you when I get a break, its been insane today”. I got lots of birthday wishes before his, but he was just preoccupied.
I think that she needs to tell him that this bothers her. My hubs and I aren’t overly affectionate, but its the little things that make the difference. One thing that I think is so cute is that hubs downloaded a love poem app, since he’s not very good with words. Everyonce in a while, he will randomly send me a text with a poem, and it usually ends up when I’ve had a shitty day, and really needed it. It seriously gives me a pep in my step the rest of the day.
Post # 5
Maybe he’s just not a vocal person when it comes to emotions and thats why he doesnt alway say “I love you”
Maybe he forgot her birthday? Or he has a surprise planned. My husband isnt good with dates at all, he wont remember his own moms birthday unless I remind him, so I also give him a heads up when we enter my birthday month because I know he wont rememeber otherwise.