Post # 1
So I work at a place where you can do DIY wedding invites so I talk to lots of brides/mothers/aunts ect.
So this lady comes in and is designing an invite for a “No-Host Shower”. She explains it in that they get sent an invite, and in order to attend, they have to pay $25 for a lunch and $50 for a gift. Now you can not eat lunch so that would save you $25, but you still are required to write a check for $50 to go in on a gift. Apprently your check is your RSVP. I don’t think you even know what the gift is that is being bought with the money.
Has anybody heard of this before?? I certainly have not and it just sounds weird to me! Maybe this is a cultural/regional thing?
I would feel bad because I wouldn’t be able to fork over $75 to attend a friend’s shower and then I wouldn’t be able to attend! Plus, it would look weird if you didn’t eat lunch while everyone else is! The beauty of a shower is that everyone can participate, and only give what they can without it being awkward!
Also she said she was sending out 80 invites….which even if that’s only single invites would be $4000! I could pay for my honeymoon with that!
Have I been living under a rock with this concept? What do you think about this type of party?
Post # 3
I’ve never heard of this and personally, I’m not a fan. While I could afford that amount, there are many people I know who cannot afford that (or at least, not easily). We had people at our wedding that were unemployed or on fixed income (e.g. the elderly). I’m not necessarily opposed to an event where people have to pay for themselves (i.e. go dutch) but IMO $25 is a bit steep for that AND a mandatory gift.
That being said, I don’t like showers in general. I don’t like having friends or relatives fork over a lot of money to throw me a party where I get gifts.
Post # 4
@laurel946: I think it sounds rude, but it must be a cultural/regional thing. But even if that were a thing where I live, I don’t think I’d do it. Unless my family/guests really expected one. Then I’d be happy with $4k, lol.
Post # 5
@laurel946: I think a Blogger Bee talked about a bridal shower like this. It was a Mexican or Puerto Rican tradition I think. I’m Mexican-American and have NEVER heard of it before that post, but maybe it’s something done in those actual countries?
Personally, I can’t imagine doing it. Although, I guess I’ve been to parties at restaurants where you pay your own way… and I would also bring a gift. But I can control the cost in that case. Telling me to “pay for my plate” AND the dollar amount I need to give is a little too pushy for me.
Post # 6
Sounds like another money grab to me. I am glad I was not invited.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I’ve never heard of this before, and I don’t like the idea of it. I’m also half-puertorican and never heard of this in my family, either. Gifts should not be mandatory, IMO.
Post # 8
I’ve never heard of this concept for a bridal shower. However, I have heard of and participated in “goodbye” parties and retirement parties like this for people with whom I have worked. Someone in the office decides or is assigned the task of coordinating the event, and he or she sends an e-mail/flier etc. regarding the event. There is a cost to participate, and the cost covers food and a gift. Thankfully, I’ve never been to an event where the cost to attend/cover the gift was $75, however.
Post # 9
never heard of this either…and can’t imagine myself doing anything like it. would feel uncomfortable and, as a PP mentioned, like it takes away from what is really most important/special about these kinds of events/life moments.
Post # 10
That is so ridiculously tacky and untasteful. Yuck.