No-Host Showers?!?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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3633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve never heard of this and personally, I’m not a fan. While I could afford that amount, there are many people I know who cannot afford that (or at least, not easily). We had people at our wedding that were unemployed or on fixed income (e.g. the elderly). I’m not necessarily opposed to an event where people have to pay for themselves (i.e. go dutch) but IMO $25 is a bit steep for that AND a mandatory gift.

That being said, I don’t like showers in general. I don’t like having friends or relatives fork over a lot of money to throw me a party where I get gifts.

Post # 4
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1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@laurel946:  I think it sounds rude, but it must be a cultural/regional thing. But even if that were a thing where I live, I don’t think I’d do it. Unless my family/guests really expected one. Then I’d be happy with $4k, lol.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@laurel946:  I think a Blogger Bee talked about a bridal shower like this. It was a Mexican or Puerto Rican tradition I think. I’m Mexican-American and have NEVER heard of it before that post, but maybe it’s something done in those actual countries? 

Personally, I can’t imagine doing it. Although, I guess I’ve been to parties at restaurants where you pay your own way… and I would also bring a gift. But I can control the cost in that case. Telling me to “pay for my plate” AND the dollar amount I need to give is a little too pushy for me. 

Post # 6
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sounds like another money grab to me.  I am glad I was not invited.

Post # 7
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I’ve never heard of this before, and I don’t like the idea of it.  I’m also half-puertorican and never heard of this in my family, either.  Gifts should not be mandatory, IMO.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve never heard of this concept for a bridal shower.   However, I have heard of and participated in “goodbye” parties and retirement parties like this for people with whom I have worked. Someone in the office decides or is assigned the task of coordinating the event, and he or she sends an e-mail/flier etc. regarding the event. There is a cost to participate, and the cost covers food and a gift.  Thankfully, I’ve never been to an event where the cost to attend/cover the gift was $75, however.

Post # 9
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

never heard of this either…and can’t imagine myself doing anything like it.  would feel uncomfortable and, as a PP mentioned, like it takes away from what is really most important/special about these kinds of events/life moments.

Post # 10
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1190 posts
Bumble bee

That is so ridiculously tacky and untasteful. Yuck.

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