Post # 1
Ok so I guess it’s my time to vent about the age thing! So when I went to get my wedding dress one of the ladies working there asked if I was there for a formal or prom dress! I really didn’t know what to say! I’m 23 and we’ve been together 5 years living together for 4. I don’t really consider us THAT young. I mean we have our responsibilities. I graduated with a BA. We moved to another city. I mean really I don’t get it. I wish that they would train them to use something more generic like “What can I help you with today?” or something like that.
Also! I went to a bridal fair/convention type deal and a lot of the vendors wouldn’t even give me a second glance. Maybe I didn’t have the presence that some of the other older brides did, but I was wearing my pink “Bride” designating little wristband just like the rest of them. It’s amazing to me how people just assume that you have to be a certain age to do certain things in life. I completely don’t understand especially how older women can tell us that we’re too young. There have been things that I have given up, but they aren’t exactly things that meant a lot to me otherwise this incredible guy couldn’t have had such a big impact in my life. My life is dictated by my thoughts and emotions, and not by the timeline that other people think they have the right to impose on me.
Thanks everyone for letting me vent and I can’t wait to comment on your posts and ideas. I love this site! It’s already helped me so much in my planning! 🙂
Post # 3
LOL I am 42 and have been asked if I am there for a MOB dress – I guess there is some magical age to buy wedding dresses?
Post # 4
I know EXACTLY how you feel. When I went to shoppes they tried to help my mom, not me.
Post # 5
I went to a bridal convention alone to try and get some legit info…that was a mistake. None of the vendors wanted to talk to me because I didnt have an entourage and I wasnt wearing my “bride” sticker. Oh, well… their loss! lol
Post # 6
Aw! I’m sorry! I wish I could say I was 23! I’m only 20 and it’s ridiculous the way people react to hearing I’m engaged. One thing that drives me insane is when people don’t take me seriously, or when they doubt me. I’m a very careful person and I think hard about the choices I make. People judge way too much on age and appearance. It’s a bit discouraging sometimes.
But you know what you’re doing. And unixfairy, I’m sorry that happened to you too! Frustrating assumptions. People are good at making others feel inadequate in some way, no matter what age they are. You just have to brush it off and take comfort in knowing that you are confident in your choice : ]
Post # 7
Some people really know how to make you feel good, huh? 😉
I was subbing the other day at a middle school and another teacher came in and told me I was either a really old student, or a really young sub. Hmmm…is there a positive way to take that comment? I laughed because I think he was trying to be nice and make a joke, but it just wasn’t a good one.
Luckily no one ever reacts when I say anything about having a Fiance (we’re not “technically” engaged yet, but when dealing with anyone other than friends or family that’s what we refer to each other as)
Post # 8
@unixfairy: Wow! how rude!
Post # 9
I know this is a bit cliche to say but it does get better with age. I used to be carded everywhere I went when was younger. Now not so much, maybe once in a great while.
Post # 10
haha i know the feeling – we were at the church the other day actually walking into a meeting with the deacon and i heard this couple leaving say “they do not even look old enough to get married”
im 24 – he is (turning) 26 (on our honeymoon!)
but i get it, we both look super young
i get those respnoses everytime i try and buy cigarettes (i know bad habit) but im like really? i dont even look 18?
Post # 11
I haven’t gotten any comments like this yet, but I haven’t gone dress shopping or anything like that. I do expect them to come when I start shopping. I am 22, and I know I look even younger. My mom has always looked younger than her age. My friends don’t think she looks like she’s in her 50’s. I look at it this way… I will look younger than what I really am once I get older. Can’t complain about that I guess!
Post # 12
I was asked the exact same thing and then AGAIN when my BMs were with me picking out their dresses. Seriously twice?
Post # 12
haha! i totally know the feeling. i haven’t gotten any comments while doing wedding related things but i’m carded every time i get a drink w/ dinner or go to a casino. believe it or not, i was even carded at an R movie and once while trying to learn how to drive a stick-shift car! oh, and i’m 28, by the way! so, even though i’m not “young” per se, i know how it feels to not be taken seriously due to age.
Post # 13
I have gotten the “but you look so young to be getting married” several times. It sucks.
Post # 14
OMG. I get that, too!!! I’m 24 (he is 36). One time, a woman asked me what HIGH SCHOOL I went to!!!! Seriously? What high school? I’m an attorney…not a high school student! LAME!
Post # 15
I totally understand, too! When I purchased a pair of shoes for the wedding (which I ultimately returned b/c I didn’t like them with my dress), the sales person asked me what color my prom dress is. Really? I’m 25.