(Closed) No inner envelope – how do I let the kids know they're invited?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Names on outer or include them in the “we have reserved # seats for you” on the RSVP card.

Post # 4
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Since you’re not having an inner envelope could you do something like

The Smith Family
100 Partridge Lane
The Woods, Narnia

Or you could say

Mr. and Mrs. Smith
and Family
The Woods, Narnia 

Post # 5
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would definitely say outer envelope would suffice.

Post # 6
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Outer Envelope… or use the very traditional format for your Invites, where you leave a space to handwrite in the names

Doctor and Mrs. Alvin Howard Berndt

request the honour of

Mr. and Mrs. Peter Kennedy

and Miss Anne Kennedy’s

presence at the marriage of their daughter

Julie Anne


Mr. Patrick Desmond Whelan

Saturday, the first of October

two thousand and twelve

at two o’clock

St John’s Church



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Hope this helps,


Post # 7
2488 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

put it on your website

word of mouth

and address it to the famiy not couples

If its not to late in tiny letering at the bottom you can say famiy friendly event. or something like that.

Post # 8
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Write “family” on the envelope. And on the RSVP card say 4 spaces or 5 or whatever the total is with kids.

Post # 9
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You say exactly who is invited on the outer envelope:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

Sally, Bobby, and Gene Smith


City, State Zip

“and Family” can get you into trouble. After all, why can’t cousin Margie bring her mother-in-law? She’s in town and she certainly counts as family, right?

Post # 10
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had outer envelopes as well and I addressed them as MidwestBride2012 is suggesting.

It worked out well and no one called the “No Inner Envelope Addressing Police”



Post # 11
11343 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am definitely in the minority in the Hive, but I had — and LOVED having — inner envelopes in my invitation suite for just this type of reason.  I’ve seen some guidance from other bees regrding how to handle this sans the presence of inner envelopes; however, I do not know for certain.

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