Post # 1
So at my venue, a golf club, guests are not allowed to wear jeans. Which is fine by me! But I don’t know how to get this across to my guests. I know I can put something like “Semi-formal attire preferred” on the invites, but what if someone takes that as a suggestion and still comes in jeans? I don’t want them to be kicked out of the wedding by the staff!
Post # 3
What time is your wedding? You could do the semi-formal attire on the invites and put that it’s the venue regulations…. and you could spread it thru word of mouth.
Post # 4
Agreed. Put semi formal attire required in the invitations. If you put suggested it still seems like an option.
Also make sure it is on the wedding website if you have one
Post # 5
The wedding will be in the evening.
I’m a little afraid that if I put “Semi-formal attire required” on the invite that people would think I’m being rude. 🙁
Post # 6
I find it hard to believe that someone would wear jeans to a wedding, especially one at a golf course, but you can put “semi-formal attire” on the invite without being rude!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t think it was rude if I received an invitation with “semi-formal attire” on it. 🙂
Then again, I can’t imagine wearing jeans to a wedding….haha.
Post # 8
@allegrovivo: if you think you will come off as rude, consider noting that the venue requires semi-formal attire as dress code. That way people understand it wasn’t you 🙂
Post # 9
@Juliepants: I know! I don’t think I would ever even think to wear jeans to a wedding.
OP, I think you’re ok to just put “Semi Formal Attire”, no one will be offended.
Post # 10
I don’t think it’s rude to put “semi-formal attire” on the invitations. First of all, it will make things easier because people won’t have to guess the formality of the event. Second of all, does anyone really wear jeans to any kind of wedding?
Post # 11
Oh, I meant I’m afraid that if I put “required” it would sound bad.
Maybe I can say “the club requires semi-formal attire” on the invites?
Post # 12
Semi-formal attire sounds to me like a lot of men are going to come in (nice) jeans with blazers.
In my experience, if you say formal dress requested, you will get a lot of semi-formal dress with a few fancy folks.
Post # 13
If you are doing an info card you can put it there. I have one which mentions wearing lawn appropriate shoes. Our website,directions etc. I wouldnt want to put it on my actual invitation card if I could help it
Post # 14
@MademoiselleL: Umm my FI’s family does this on a regular basis…it drives me crazy!!!
OP there is absolutely no reason to not include the dress code, it isn’t rude. My invites said “formal attire requested” and I also included further elaboration of what was and wasn’t okay on the website for anyone who had questions (ie; his family).
I don’t know if semi-formal is enough, considering your evening wedding. What about this “cocktail attire requested.” When I hear cocktail I think anything but jeans.
Post # 15
@Treejewel19 Cocktail attire sounds like exactly what I need!
@MsJ2theZ I was planning on putting info cards in my invites. Great idea!!
Post # 16
Perhaps “cocktail” would be a better choice of phrase than “semi-formal”?
Semi-formal may create some confusion (I would think jeans and a blazer for the men). There have always been a few people who rock up in jeans at every wedding I’ve been to, but you’d know who these people are likely to be. Maybe you could speak to them individually and hint at it?