Post # 1
We are planning to not have “many” children at our wedding. There are a few that will be invited, and several babies as everyone in the wedding party will be having a baby within 4 months of our wedding. My problem is that in my town, if you don’t make it clear that their children aren’t invited, people assume it is OK to bring them along. Our wedding is up to 300 people, and we can not accomodate anymore. We are going to be asking everyone to RSVP on our website only, and have attached this burb when they go to do so…
Parents, it is our sincere wish that you see our wedding as an opportunity for a special night out as a couple. While we wish all family members could attend, due to venue restrictions, we are only able to accommodate those that are specifically addressed on the invitation.
Do you think this is rude/too blunt? I’m trying to politley be very firm on this.
Post # 4
What about having your response cards printed with “we have reserved _____ seats in your honor,” and you fill in the number of invitees before you mail them? It gets the message across without a lecture, which is kind of how your proposed wording sounds.
Post # 5
As a parent, I think I’d be okay with this. If you were doing response cards I’d go the route Sailor suggested, but with it all on-line you’ve got to make it clear somewhere. I think that’s about the nicest way I’ve seen those wishes expressed.
Post # 7
I think you should write “we have reserved 2 seats in your honor.” It makes it obviously that children aren’t invited.
blech I don’t know who wants to bring children to fancy adult events?
Post # 8
So, I just went through this a week or two ago. I ordered my invites and on the invites it says, “there will be an adult reception to follow….” I know that some may say that this is not proper, but in all honesty, some one is going to be mad or hurt by the fact that their children cannot attend. It is not that I don’t want children there, it is just that could up our seating capacity by a lot. And believe it or not, we have had our first complaint about it and the invites are not even out. This was a complaint by one of our friends, and I was completely thrown back by it. Bottom line is not every one will be happy with your descion, but the way your worded that is very well put and be prepared for some backlash!!! Good luck
Post # 9
Ditto to PinkMagnolia‘s response.
Our response cards started with “We have reserved ____ seats in your honor.”
Honestly, you do not need to explain your choices to your guests.