(Closed) No Kids Invited yet guests still asking if they are!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did guests STILL ask if their children were invited when it was specified they weren't?
    Yes, but only a few. : (22 votes)
    56 %
    Yes, a lot/most of them did! : (4 votes)
    10 %
    Maybe one or two... : (6 votes)
    15 %
    Nope. They all understood perfectly! : (7 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Listening in, because I definitely see this happening to us…

    I didn’t want to flat-out put “ADULTS ONLY” on the invite, but tried to make it clear in other ways.  SIL is already pitching a fit, so I am bracing myself for the worst with the invites.

    Post # 5
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    1061 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Just what you did!  Addressed the evelopes accordingly, wrote in the RSVP cards and filled in the number of guests.  We also sort of spread the word through friends and made “casual comments” about their being no kids.

    Post # 6
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We said no kids, but we are getting one uninvited kid. They had to fly in, so we allowed it, but I’m sure the other parents are going to be pissed when they see the kid (and they had to pay for babysitters).

    We honestly didn’t know that many kids under 16. Out of our entire wedding there were only 5 potential kids.

    Post # 7
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    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Etiquette gods will surely strike me down, but I put Adult evening of cocktails, dancing and merriment to follow…

    RIGHT ON MY INVITATION.  RIGHT ON THE BOTTOM!  OMG THE HORROR.  WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK!?

     

    I’m also putting a note about it on our wedding website. 

    And I’m not sorry about it.  Not one bit. 

    Post # 8
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    1763 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    PinkMagnolia: It isn’t just about having to pay for a babysitter;)

    OP: I think people are going to ask unless you flat out write Adults Only. I wouldn’t take offense, I am sure they are just clarifying.

    Post # 9
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Yes I do agree that I think people may just be clarifying. Like if I received an invite without FI’s name, I would clarify. Maybe they didn’t know I was engaged?

    Post # 10
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    1243 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @CherryWaves:  Yes and we did exactly what you did AND included a note on our website.  

    I still don’t understand why people don’t get normal invitation ettiquette. If your name isn’t on the envelope, you’re not invited.  

    Geez.

     

    Post # 12
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    5978 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @KristenGotMarried: LOL, we put the same thing! On the bottom of our invitation, we put “Adult Only Reception” and where it was. I’ll be shot by the ettiquette police!

    Post # 13
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    10563 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    At least they are asking and not just showing up with kids!  I had someone ask, even though we had & family on the invitation.  She had more kids than DH had originally thought though, so I guess she just wanted to double check.

    Post # 16
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    219 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    i’m just getting rsvps back and i already have had 2 people ask me. my FMIL told one family (friends of hers) they could bring their kids to the wedding but that it just wouldn’t be feasible for the reception due to cost. another couple friend of ours asked and i felt so awkward that i told them it was ok to bring their daughter because they’re out of town. i can’t afford to cave anymore though! we did the same thing as you though…only put names on envelopes of mr. & mrs…and then we put ___ seats reserved. ACK! 

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