Post # 1
My FI and I decided to have a ‘no kids’ wedding for a couple of reasons- first he is from a huge family and there must be 30 plus kids…the cost would be outrageous, secondly we think it’s really more of an adult event, there will be drinking, dancing, etc. and we really just don’t want the fuss of kids running around. SO, we are making it no kids and everyone with children will just need to respect that,
My dilemma, my family is small, like 10 people small and my dad’s new wife has a daughter who is 16 years old (step sister to me), and my Aunt has a son that is the same age…I know if I did invite them and make an exception my dad and his wife would have a fit as well as my Aunt. Is it acceptable to invite two people on my side considering that I have such a small family and considering 80% of the wedding guests are on my FI side? I wouldn’t want his side to get upset that we are making exceptions for my family but I wouldn’t know how to tell my Dad and Aunt to not have their kids w/out it creating an issue.
Post # 3
I don’t think it should be an issue to me 16 isnt a kid anyway.
Post # 4
I think 16 is much different than 5. Invite who you want to and don’t worry about it. Are there any teenagers on the other side? Maybe look at the ages and see if there is a natural cut off age, like a big gap between kids. In my opinion 16 year olds should be invited like adults as they are only 2 years away from being 18! They will probably enjand the dancing, just make sure they don’t sneak any drinks 😉
Post # 5
16 and a sibling sounds like a natural exception to a no kids rule.
Are there a lot of teenagers in your FH’s side? We had a no kids wedding, but I have one cousin that was 15 that we invited, and nobody said boo.
Post # 6
That is very helpful! There are quite a bit on his side ranging from 13 to 17…another reason we said no kids was because that cut the cost down so much…if we invited one cousin on his side we’d have to invite them all- I’m just hoping people don’t think I’m picking ‘favorites’, especially if they see teens on my side.
Post # 7
@carterk01: I would say invite your sister, because immediate family (even if it’s “step”) should be an exception. However, I would have to say you should not invite your aunt’s son…that does seem like you’re playing favorites, because the other side of the family also has some 17 year olds. Yes, she may pitch a fit, but it’s only fair.
Post # 8
@kendra389: +1 that seems like the perfect advice.
Post # 10
Aside from your step sister as she is immediate family, it should either be all kids or no kids.
Post # 11
Thank you all, this has been so helpful 🙂 I’m so glad I was able to get other opinions