Post # 1
I was wondering if any other bees are in this predicament. The majority of our guests are from Out of Town but we are not inviting children to the wedding. I am concerned that we are asking folks to travel and leave their kids behind for the weekend and may get a lot of NOs as a result.
Should I be concerned? Have any bees dealt with this situation creatively? If you are a parent, would you have a problem leaving your kid at home for the weekend to attend a wedding?
Post # 3
You could offer to provide babysitting during the wedding.
Post # 4
Unfortunately, it’s not in our budget to offer babysitting services. Would it be bad to provide a list of reputable sitters that they can use at their expense if they choose to?
Post # 6
My cousin did this. Her BIL wasn’t able to attend because of it. It’s hard for people to leave their kids behind for a few days :(.
Post # 7
you’ll have more people decline because of this. i don’t think most parents would feel comfortable leaving their kids with a random sitter they’ve never met when they’re out of town, so if they don’t have family or someone to leave the kids with for the whole weekend, they won’t be able to go.
Post # 8
I am in the exact same position as you are!! I have 10 guests coming from out of province, which means an hour plane ride or 12+ hours of driving. My one cousin has a baby who will be over a year old at the time of my wedding. A very very dear friend of mine will also have a one year old at the time of my wedding. No one in the extended family has even met my cousins baby, OR his baby mama. I am uncomfortable inviting someone I have never met to my wedding but that’s what we have to do. We are not inviting their baby, bacause anyone who shows up without their kids will wonder why he was allowed to do it. If we let one cousin do it, we have to let everyone do it.
Post # 9
It’s ABSOULTELY fine to not have kids at your wedding, but do realize that some parents (especially those with younger kids) are just not going to feel comfortable leaving there children with a baby sitter they don’t know. Those parents may well decide not to come to the wedding….be sure that you realize it isn’t personal and don’t let your feelings get hurt by their decision.
We are having a kids room with a babysitter actually AT the venue (we are lucky that most of the kids we know are girls between the ages of 3-7, so we can just put princess movies on the laptop and they’ll be pretty happy.
I think proving a list of sitters is a good idea (especially if there are some that you or your family can personally vouch for), and then just let the parents make their own decision.
Post # 10
I do think that you will have more people decline b/c of this. It’s one thing to say no-kids when the wedding is in the same town as most couples with kids b/c they will already have reliable baby sitters that they can call on and plan in advance. However, when you have a lot of out of town guests with kids I don’t know how they will feel about leaving their kids while they travel out of town, or having a stranger babysit their kids.
Post # 11
I think you just have to prepare yourself for the fact that some of these people will not be able to celebrate your wedding with you. Of course, it is your wedding so you get to decide whether kids are invited or not, this is just a downside to that sometimes.
Post # 12
@NJmeetsBX: none of my dads side of the family came to the weddin (5 sisters with husbands) bc i said no children…i wasnt really close them though so it wasnt that sad….but all the same about 15 people said no bc of the “no children” clause.
Post # 13
All of our guests were Out of Town and we had no kids.
Our friends were fine with it and enjoyed the night out without kids. We didn’t have any No’s due to kids.
Post # 14
I’m in the same boat. We’re not providing a sitter, and I do think we will have several “no’s” partially due to this. But, like you, I do have a list of people who would be available if someone would like to hire a sitter for the night. I think that’s adequate– if people don’t feel comfortable with a stranger watching their kids for a few hours, I can’t do anything to change their minds.
Post # 15
I think it really depends on the age of the Out of Town guest’s children. For example, I am having a lot of Out of Town guests with children under the age of 5. I know that many of the parents would not be comfortable leaving their young children with a sitter for 3-4 days to attend my Out of Town wedding. It would simply be too hard on the kids to do so. So, I am making it a family friendly event. 🙂
Post # 16
I am inviting children to my wedding and having a children’s room set up with a sitter as an option during the reception. However, I have been surprised how many people have decided they are coming and NOT brining their children. My wedding is also some place where people have to travel to. I thought we would have around 30 kids but turns out it will only be around 15. There is a strong possibility that more people will not be able to make it if you say no kids, but that is something you just need to be prepared for.