Post # 1
Wedding shower invites contained the wording “Adults only”..
The no kids thing has been drama this week (with one week leading up the weddingshower). I message the FI’s mom’s side of the fam on FB to see who’s coming for a food head count.. his uncle replies “probably me, the wife and Margery(his step daughter, 15yo, whom I’ve never had a full convo with)”
I reply with: Oh I’m sorry, but this is an adult event and we have a packed house. So sorry. Thanks
He replies: Please define adult?
OOOOOOOOOOOHHH heck no! I was pissed.. so long story short, i didnt respond yet and he went ahead and text messaged the MIL asking “what constitues an adult?” then proceeds to call her hours later asking if the SD could go.
The MIL then talks to my FI asking if she could go.. he says no, its the rule across the board.. she ask’s why not.. goes back and forth.. she insits on backing her brother and saying “well what if other people bring their kids, I’m going to feel bad”
So when the brother called my MIL and asked she replied with “well I dont think its a good idea because it says no kids and plus it starts late and there wont be other kids there”
Can you believe the nerve of this guy??
What do you gals think of this situation?
Post # 3
Tell him flat out in no fancy words….Adult Only = No minor persons.
Post # 4
I have yet to respond to him b/c I know he is looking for a debate.
Post # 5
I’m having no kids (with a slight exception for nursing infants) and I don’t feel bad about it. My reception is in a BAR, people! Deal with it. My neice has been whining about it for months. (13 yo) and I told her to suck it up.
If you’re not close enough with these people to have an honest and forthright conversation, does it even really matter if they don’t show up?
Just tell him, Adult =21+ and then don’t say anything else.
Post # 6
Some people make the cutoff younger than 18 or 21 (say 12), so that might be why he’s asking. I think you need to give him an answer and just stick to your guns. He’s probably just asking around because he needs an answer and you haven’t given him one.
Post # 7
That sucks. I would just set an age, i.e. 18 and stick to it. Let your inlaws and parents know that’s the deal. Otherwise ppl may ask, maybe he considers Adults Only for something like this to be children only (like under 12) and teenagers could be mature enough to attend. You never know…so it’s best to stick to an age and let everyone know right away.
Post # 8
Say 18 years old and stick with the decision.
Post # 9
I would respond Adult = 18 years of age. He can’t debate with that. God people are annoying! I’m so over social graces when responding to people like this! haha