Post # 1
We have decided, due to venue capacity, to have an adults only wedding as inviting kids would result in another 30+ to our headcount. We’ve set up a wedding website, and added a section for FAQs to answer some of the general questions about our day such as parking, transportation, attire, things to do, etc. Is it wrong if I add a question “What about the kids?” and address it by saying “Unfortunately, we will be having an adults only reception. If you need assistance with child care, please let us know and we would be happy to help coordinate this with you.”
I feel like its wrong to say it, but so many people have been asking us that they may appreciate knowing up front. Need some input here…
Post # 3
I think that is a great idea. And you are telling people that you will help them rather than saying sorry they can’t come, find something to do with them!
Post # 4
I think it would be helpful to put that information on the website. People will need to know, and it is a lot more diplomatic than having to call people who RSVP with thier kids and tell them they can’t come.
Post # 5
As long as you don’t make any exceptions, I think that is great way to spread the word.
Post # 6
I actually really like that way of doing it!
Post # 7
That’s a great option! People are funny though so prepare to still answer the question even though the info is on the website.
Post # 8
Thats what we did & it worked well!
Post # 9
that’s what we are doing! we put info on a babysitting website and said that our ceremony and reception sites were not child friendly and will be adults-only. people still ask but annoying people will be annoying, regardless of how much info you give them, so I thought it was a way to get less questions.
Post # 10
We said (and this quote is from another Bee…I wish I remember who):
“We look forward to dancing the night away with all of you but, due to the venue size, we are limited to an adult-only reception. Thanks for your understanding.”
We added that breast-feeding mothers were welcome. The only issue with this occurs when you have woman who breast feed longer (ie- kids are walking, running, etc). We had to talk to one couple (who completely understood) because they wanted to bring their walking child. There was no room at our venue for a “pac n’ play” or anywhere to put their child down. It was basically a “child in arms” situation.
Most people understand. Those that don’t are rude.