(Closed) No Kids Response- Did I go too far??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@jjilyeah: Okay lol, that was a little snotty of you to say, BUT I think she kind of deserved it and it made me laugh. I think that may be fun to do an adults only party for your dad! How old is he going to be?

Post # 4
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

lol well it was kinda rude. but so was her comment. I’d say it depends on your relationship with her. if she’s going to hold this grudge forever apologize, if not i’d just let it go and maybe take a breath before responding to the next rude comment 🙂

Post # 5
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Whoops. Ya, I would probably say sorry, you were having a bad day and didn’t mean to be snippy, but the budget/space/insert other white lie here can’t accomodate all the kids unfortunately.

Post # 6
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think it wasn’t the politest way to say it, but then you had already gone the polite route by saying it was over 18. I would say it was blunt rather than rude, and a solid reason. No apology needed.

Post # 7
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

LOL i kinda laughed so I say no, whatever. She asked a rude question and she got a snarky answer, but it’s not like you said, “Bitch you aren’t paying!!!!”. And frankly, i think she kinda deserved it with her tidbit about “what happened when kids weren’t invited”. She’ll get over it.

Post # 8
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ugh.  One of my pet peeves is people who are attached at the hips to their kids and think they have to bring them everywhere! 

That said, I do think you should probably apologize if only for the sake of family harmony.  Maybe omething along the lines of, “hey, I’m sorry if my last e-mail sounded rude – I wrote it in a hurry and wasn’t thinking.  Unfortunately, this time out we can’t accommodate the kids but I really hope you can still make it.” 

Good luck fighting the “no kids allowed” battle!

Post # 9
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

If it’s not like you to be sarcastic/blunt, then yes, you should apologize. It was funny though.

Post # 10
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

lmao, congratulations for saying what we’re all thinking. But yeah… I would definitely apologize.

Post # 11
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

well i think based on her rude question that you shouldn’t apologize, but then again I don’t know your relationship with her. I mean, you were nice the first time when you wrote it on the invite, why does she think her kid is the exception?.

Post # 12
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Like PPs have said, you probably should apologize but we would have wanted to say the same thing.

It really depends on your relationship with her though.

Did she respond to that e-mail?

Also, I’d be careful about saying the reason there are no kids is because of cost, that sometimes leads people to offer to pay for their kids plate and then you are in even more of a bind if you really don’t want kids there.

Post # 13
2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

This made me laugh!

You could apologize but it’s not like you were really mean – just bluntly to the point.

Post # 15
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

LOL Good job on saying what everyone else would have wanted to say but Yeah, you should probably apologize.

Post # 16
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I thought it was funny, maybe a little snarky, but not really rude.  Her response was rude, so I am sure you just got a little defensive – she is the rude one!

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